This just blows me out of the WTF water. You did good, Ally and I am proud of your actions. I’m a retired nurse, gave 40 years, and if I had ever seen or heard of a doctor doing this to a patient I would have ripped his balls off no problem. But actually reporting him is what takes courage and clarity of mind. Because you are absolutely right: he made the first move and it was wrong, wrong, wrong. What kind of idiot puts his career on the line like that? Your reporting him wasn’t the problem; him calling you was and he knew it, admitted it and then did what all cowards do: beg you not to report him. Slam, dunk! Well done.
Thanks for saying this, Molly. Actually, it's funny you say this, it was the nurse at my doctor's office who told me to call the California Medical Board. She was enraged. She told me to make sure I had a screenshot of the time his call came in and the number, and to write down exactly what he said to me while it was clear in my mind. She also said she was going to talk to everyone who'd been in the room during my surgery and to call back if I needed help. Nurses are amazing. Thanks for being here <3
I'm going to get emotional, but I spent the last month of my mother's life in the ICU, November-December, 2021 in NYC...so Covid times. My mom had ALS, but everyone around her was dying of Covid. I do not know how I would have made it through that experience if not for the nurses. I was there twelve hours a day for a month, with very few exceptions, just a couple of days to fly home, look at my kids, and fly back. Nurses are the best, most compassionate, tough, kind, generous people on earth. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Ally, I think you might be described with the same words as you confer nurses:) You and your mum were both lucky to get that time together, however difficult it was. I’m glad your nurses could help with the huge responsibility it is to sit with a dying parent. Thanks for sharing your story. Sending love 💞
When I was reading about the anesthesiologist- I put down my phone and went into another room in my home and yelled,” No! NO! Noooooo!”
I wasn’t mad at you- I was putting myself in your shoes and thinking what I would have yelled in the phone at him as someone who hates to be put under partially due to trauma from an assault. I would have hexed him so hard my eyeballs would have bled and I probably would have accidentally opened a gateway to a hellscape in the liminal bardo of the afterlife.
I’m so sorry that creep put you thru that.
And Gov Janet- damn it! Why do people forget Janet standing up to the thin skinned baby man ? “But Graham has a redemption story!” Yes, but is he actually the right person for the job? Vibing over a candidate shouldn’t be a thing- they have to prove themselves to me, at least. And my memory is loooonngg.
I’m so sorry you were assaulted, Jen. And yes, it’s a very scary thing to put yourself in someone’s hands that way — to give a man your trust — when your trust has been violated. Obviously on a rational level you know you’re going to be in a room with other people the whole time. But what if you aren’t? There’s a level of trust you have to be able to give, some faith you have to have, and when a person does something like that, your faith goes out the window. I woke up alone in a room sobbing. I have no memory of how I got there, how long I was there or what happened between the time the surgery ended and I woke up. Which sucks. So to get a call like that is…not okay. To say the least.
And fucking Platner. Maybe that’s what we call him now, I don’t know. I am frustrated and sad. At the very least I’d like to feel like all the progressive women are showing up for brilliant progressive women when they run for office. But no. If we can’t even count on that, we are in trouble. So I am hoping we can get a street crew together. A perimenopausal fire-breathing nationwide street crew to commit to fantastic, vetted, progressive women candidates. I don’t know what that’s going to look like yet, but I’m determined to try to form something. Otherwise I might lose my mind. So hopefully y’all will be down 🔥🔥🔥🐦🔥🐦🔥🐦🔥
Ally, check out "The Reluctant Revolutinary" substack by Merleyn Bell- former Oklahoma State Legislature Rep, now in Nevada and writing blistering posts on the laundry list of what the democratic party/ machine in Nevada, but also nationwide, is getting VERY WRONG and specifically speaks of exactly what they, and we, need to be doing to turn this ship around.
I’m sorry to keep mentioning the assault- it colors so much still of how I perceive things. I’m sorry you were also and I know these pieces you write are kind of a way to process the past. The way you tie them to the present happenings is what makes them so good, and your authentic voice, too.
It gives a voice to many of us who can’t write out our own feelings for various reasons. Thank you.
You never have to be sorry. Mention any time, Jen. And I’m grateful it’s helpful in any way when I write about it, that is always my hope ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹🙏🏼
As a nurse for 30 years, this is so abhorrent and repulsive. Thank you for speaking up and reporting him. Like, I also asked my 75 year old gynecologist to marry me when I got Versed when I was 16 for a procedure, and you know what he did? Laughed about it. Because it was funny, and the drugs made me do that. I didn't remember any of it, but it became family lore.
All I can say, is in medicine that anesthesiologists are regarded as elite. The smartest doctors because what they have to know and learn in medical school is the most rigorous, and they are putting you to sleep and waking you up. That anesthesiologist? So goddamm stupid. I am so sorry that happened to you.
My friends and I have a new mantra for these days..."Fuck that guy!" So, fuck that guy!
I did not know that about anesthesiologists, but I would have assumed as much. What could be more revered and important than knowing exactly how much medication to give someone in their most vulnerable moments? So, yeah. And totally. Fuck that guy!!
That is a great story about overcoming your programming in deciding what to do about the wayward anesthesiologist!
One would hope that Graham Plattner would have learned from his mistakes and become a better (more responsible, more compassionate) person. But I suspect the odds are not so favorable…Janet Mills, anyone?
It's that sneaky wiring, David. I always have to be on the lookout.
And Graham Platner, smh.
Governor Mills is still on the ballot and Maine voters could vote for her, but it would be tough to relaunch her campaign unless there was a ton of cohesive enthusiasm and support — and time. But months ago, heck yes. That's when the dems should have thrown her the full weight of their support, with joy. It's not like we don't have fantastic people ready to run, it's that we don't back them when they show up. And there's a theme here, somewhere...
I was rooting for you to call and report the anesthesiologist. Thank you.
Also, I don’t think there’s any way that a man can even have a clue about the scope of what women have to deal with every damn day. I’m thankful I’ve taught my daughter to be strong and not put up with shit from anybody.
I’m grateful you’ve taught her that, too, John. I think it’s a huge help when daughters have Dads who are not blind to what the world is like for girls and women, and are raised by men who like and respect girls and women, too. Huge help. Thanks so much for being here ❤️🩹
Same same w Katie Porter!! When will we learn? Also, I can imagine how hard and how very important it was that you made that call…and I’m so glad that there were actual consequences and he got fired.
The Katie Porter Effect is what we’ll have to call it. I mean it’s the emails joyous laughter misogyny effect, but yeah. Such a huge bummer. And it was harder than it should have been to make that call, but it’s such old programming! I’m also glad there were actual consequences. It’s a relief to know there are some regulatory boards that care! Huge hugs to you, MS. Thank you for being here ❤️🔥
It's so confusing being a woman sometimes, isn't it? I wonder if men will ever understand how hard we try to get things right. Like, how much time and effort we spend trying to stay safe just existing in the world, and then when something like this happens, how we stop and think about not wanting to get someone fired. Not that every woman would, but I bet a lot of Gen X women would. The amount of energy exerted to unravel the conditioning and yeah. Of course when I thought about how unsafe it was, there wasn't any question about calling and reporting, but the fact that I had to work it out is the part that is hard to get across when you don't live it. Anyway, hugs and love to you, Laury <3
I really don't know, Susan. I keep hoping. I continue to be disappointed, but I keep hoping. I have to say, out here in CA "the left coast" I was bitterly disappointed in the progressive feminists this election cycle. Like...really?? No love for Katie? No faith, no fire, no effort? Not good.
It’s very frustrating that they can’t see past their own manipulations. They think there’s this conventional wisdom about elections that still holds. The way to win is to step out of that and embrace people like Katie Porter full throttle. Stop apologizing for being women. You can’t solve the problem at the level of the problem. Ever.
Truly. And when the smear campaign starts (and it always does) we need to be ready. This is why I’m thinking some kind of perimenopausal/post menopausal nationwide digital street team of writers, artists — anyone with any kind of platform — should band together. Like a digital sisterhood. I wonder what would have happened if there had been this incredible swell of support for Katie Porter, and when they came for her with those clips, the ways we could have answered them quickly and profoundly if there were many of us? I dunno, I just think we need to be organized and ready and also fired up. We almost need like, deprogramming conversations for “women of a certain rage” or something. It was so easy to get rid of her. It was child’s play, they’re probably still laughing about how easy it was. It’s really under my skin as I’m sure you can tell! And Governor Mills? That campaign should have funded itself with the clip from the Governors’ lunch alone. Liberal “leadership” is not getting the memo. I suppose I’m wondering how we get progressive women and the people who love them — folks who are not necessarily inside the political system — to organize and support.
I agree with you, and would help. I also think it’s the consultant class who are not helping women politicians at all. Conventional wisdom is that women shouldn’t fight back. So stupid. If you lose either way, go down swinging.
God that's so violating and gross. I'm glad you reported him. Men with no sense of boundaries have no business having that much power over people. Now that I think about it, maybe men are too emotional and irrational to have people's lives in their hands...🤔 #notallmen of course
It really is gross. Like…a vibe??? And I agree, some men are too emotional for many jobs! I’ve been flipping the script lately, Cody. For some reason the “not all men” men don’t seem to get butt hurt this way: I like men, some of my best friends are men. My son is one of my favorite humans in the world. Men can be wonderful. But, NOT ALL MEN.
Why is that easy to grasp, but it isn’t the other way? lol
Isn’t that crazy: men are supposedly the strong ones, but for the most part that’s just smoke. How can you be strong—or helpful—if you can’t get past flawed conceptions?
In my opinion you would have done us all a favor if you had turned that skunk doctor in, he gives us all a bad name, And, since some people are a bit whacky when I see women there is always another female on staff nearby, and I rarely see children alone. Trump is just the front man for the big tech bro boys. They picked him not because he is smart, not because he’s presidential and not because he knows a lot about diplomacy. The big tech bro boys chose him because they knew he had a history of being a great con man. Now the joke is on his Trumplicans, while the rest of us are hardly laughing. We can’t afford to laugh!!
Yeah, I mean I called my doctor's office and he was fired, and I filed a complaint with the California Medical Board, so I think that is "turning him in" as much as any of us can. I remember being contacted by an investigator at some point and providing a written statement, and I believe his actions fell under "Physician Misconduct." This was 14 years ago and I was in the early stages of single motherhood with two little kids and a business, so some of the details are fuzzy, but I know it was taken quite seriously. I do not remember if his license was suspended, but I feel sure he paid a hefty fine. Hopefully whatever happened, it scared the crap out of him and he never did anything like that again.
I'm not saying the anesthesiologist in my situation was violent, but my point is, you don't want to have to question someone's judgment when they have access to drugs like these.
And yes, now it is becoming standard practice to have "medical chaperones" in the room for the safety of doctors and patients during intimate physical examinations, or anytime a patient is under anesthesia, which seems like a very smart thing for both the doctor and the patient.
As for the rest, I totally agree. I think the president was/is a Trojan Horse, and the tech bros rode in, along with a bunch of white nationalists, and now we're really "in it" as they say. I'd love to get out of it, I am definitely not laughing!
As a new Mainer, I researched the people running for Senate carefully.
There are 3 people officially on the ballot (Mills suspended but is still on the ballot, Platner, and David Costello). There’s also a write-in named Andrea LaFlamme.
I’m beginning to understand how much people don’t like Mills, and she’s going to be 79 years old in December. She’s not ideal; probably my 4th choice.
Hi Joanne! I definitely don’t pretend to be an expert on Maine politics. I think to really know who the right candidates are you need to live in the state and know what’s working and what isn’t. My larger point is exactly that. I don’t think the liberal side of the equation is doing a good job vetting candidates if we’re getting down to the wire and being painted into a corner where the choices become Platner or Collins. I know Costello is on the ballot, but know nothing about him and I suspect at this late date it would be hard to get enough cohesive enthusiasm for anyone except the guy they threw their cohesive enthusiasm behind months ago. It would be good to have two or three candidates who appeal to different liberal leaning people in each state. Fully vetted, well ahead of time. I highlighted Governor Mills because from where I’m sitting in CA she seems like a principled governor who stood up to a childish bully and won. And she protects reproductive rights, a thing we need in this post-Roe world. But I am more frustrated and concerned about the lack of planning and backing of fantastic progressive women across the country. In my view, that’s what we need.
I was feeling such dread while reading about the call from the anesthesiologist, and wow I'm glad for you that you called and reported it. I completely understand the volleying thoughts you had over it. I had a father who treated his kids like it was our job to only consider him and his needs and nothing else. And yes, I recall Governor Mills, she was great. Thanks so much for this. 🧡
Nothing like a narcissistic dad to really get your wires crossed for a while 🫤
And yes, I’m glad I called, too. I’ve had so many times in my life when I tried to stand up for myself and wasn’t supported, and other times when I questioned whether something “rose to the level” so I am grateful I don’t struggle with that anymore! One of the many benefits of doing a lot of work on that old programming, but also having a daughter of my own.
I appreciate your comments, Margaret, and I’m so glad you’re here ❤️🩹
Identified with a lot of this about being raised to apologize and caretake for your father. What a creepy doctor. And because I don’t think anyone else has said it, I would think it can’t have been the first time he acted inappropriately, it was probably the first time he was reported for it.
Also, I had never heard about the conflicts in foreign development…that entire family is awful. I only hope this is provoking a worldwide backlash.
I’m so sorry you relate about my dad. It’s hard to have the first man you know be the one to teach you patterns that are so hard to overcome❤️🩹
And yes, I agree re the anesthesiologist. I think when someone crosses a line that far, it’s after they’ve crossed a thousand smaller lines before and gotten away with it.
As for Sazan Island corrupt “real estate deal”, it’s gets worse all the time. It’s one of those “follow the money” situations. So many conflicts of interest. It’s also clearly more than a luxury hotel they’re after.
This just blows me out of the WTF water. You did good, Ally and I am proud of your actions. I’m a retired nurse, gave 40 years, and if I had ever seen or heard of a doctor doing this to a patient I would have ripped his balls off no problem. But actually reporting him is what takes courage and clarity of mind. Because you are absolutely right: he made the first move and it was wrong, wrong, wrong. What kind of idiot puts his career on the line like that? Your reporting him wasn’t the problem; him calling you was and he knew it, admitted it and then did what all cowards do: beg you not to report him. Slam, dunk! Well done.
Thanks for saying this, Molly. Actually, it's funny you say this, it was the nurse at my doctor's office who told me to call the California Medical Board. She was enraged. She told me to make sure I had a screenshot of the time his call came in and the number, and to write down exactly what he said to me while it was clear in my mind. She also said she was going to talk to everyone who'd been in the room during my surgery and to call back if I needed help. Nurses are amazing. Thanks for being here <3
It’s part of what we do and thank you for acknowledging. Your nurse is a lioness!
I'm going to get emotional, but I spent the last month of my mother's life in the ICU, November-December, 2021 in NYC...so Covid times. My mom had ALS, but everyone around her was dying of Covid. I do not know how I would have made it through that experience if not for the nurses. I was there twelve hours a day for a month, with very few exceptions, just a couple of days to fly home, look at my kids, and fly back. Nurses are the best, most compassionate, tough, kind, generous people on earth. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Ally, I think you might be described with the same words as you confer nurses:) You and your mum were both lucky to get that time together, however difficult it was. I’m glad your nurses could help with the huge responsibility it is to sit with a dying parent. Thanks for sharing your story. Sending love 💞
I’m so glad your nurse had your back. I’m horrified at what I might say while under twilight and rely on the discretion of the people in the room.
Right?! That’s the other thing! None of us should have to worry about what we say under anesthesia! 😳 I’m really grateful the nurse had my back, too🙏🏼
When I was reading about the anesthesiologist- I put down my phone and went into another room in my home and yelled,” No! NO! Noooooo!”
I wasn’t mad at you- I was putting myself in your shoes and thinking what I would have yelled in the phone at him as someone who hates to be put under partially due to trauma from an assault. I would have hexed him so hard my eyeballs would have bled and I probably would have accidentally opened a gateway to a hellscape in the liminal bardo of the afterlife.
I’m so sorry that creep put you thru that.
And Gov Janet- damn it! Why do people forget Janet standing up to the thin skinned baby man ? “But Graham has a redemption story!” Yes, but is he actually the right person for the job? Vibing over a candidate shouldn’t be a thing- they have to prove themselves to me, at least. And my memory is loooonngg.
I’m so sorry you were assaulted, Jen. And yes, it’s a very scary thing to put yourself in someone’s hands that way — to give a man your trust — when your trust has been violated. Obviously on a rational level you know you’re going to be in a room with other people the whole time. But what if you aren’t? There’s a level of trust you have to be able to give, some faith you have to have, and when a person does something like that, your faith goes out the window. I woke up alone in a room sobbing. I have no memory of how I got there, how long I was there or what happened between the time the surgery ended and I woke up. Which sucks. So to get a call like that is…not okay. To say the least.
And fucking Platner. Maybe that’s what we call him now, I don’t know. I am frustrated and sad. At the very least I’d like to feel like all the progressive women are showing up for brilliant progressive women when they run for office. But no. If we can’t even count on that, we are in trouble. So I am hoping we can get a street crew together. A perimenopausal fire-breathing nationwide street crew to commit to fantastic, vetted, progressive women candidates. I don’t know what that’s going to look like yet, but I’m determined to try to form something. Otherwise I might lose my mind. So hopefully y’all will be down 🔥🔥🔥🐦🔥🐦🔥🐦🔥
Ally, check out "The Reluctant Revolutinary" substack by Merleyn Bell- former Oklahoma State Legislature Rep, now in Nevada and writing blistering posts on the laundry list of what the democratic party/ machine in Nevada, but also nationwide, is getting VERY WRONG and specifically speaks of exactly what they, and we, need to be doing to turn this ship around.
Will do, thanks Lori!
I’m down! And I’m newly menopausal!
I’m sorry to keep mentioning the assault- it colors so much still of how I perceive things. I’m sorry you were also and I know these pieces you write are kind of a way to process the past. The way you tie them to the present happenings is what makes them so good, and your authentic voice, too.
It gives a voice to many of us who can’t write out our own feelings for various reasons. Thank you.
You never have to be sorry. Mention any time, Jen. And I’m grateful it’s helpful in any way when I write about it, that is always my hope ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹🙏🏼
As a nurse for 30 years, this is so abhorrent and repulsive. Thank you for speaking up and reporting him. Like, I also asked my 75 year old gynecologist to marry me when I got Versed when I was 16 for a procedure, and you know what he did? Laughed about it. Because it was funny, and the drugs made me do that. I didn't remember any of it, but it became family lore.
All I can say, is in medicine that anesthesiologists are regarded as elite. The smartest doctors because what they have to know and learn in medical school is the most rigorous, and they are putting you to sleep and waking you up. That anesthesiologist? So goddamm stupid. I am so sorry that happened to you.
My friends and I have a new mantra for these days..."Fuck that guy!" So, fuck that guy!
I did not know that about anesthesiologists, but I would have assumed as much. What could be more revered and important than knowing exactly how much medication to give someone in their most vulnerable moments? So, yeah. And totally. Fuck that guy!!
That is a great story about overcoming your programming in deciding what to do about the wayward anesthesiologist!
One would hope that Graham Plattner would have learned from his mistakes and become a better (more responsible, more compassionate) person. But I suspect the odds are not so favorable…Janet Mills, anyone?
It's that sneaky wiring, David. I always have to be on the lookout.
And Graham Platner, smh.
Governor Mills is still on the ballot and Maine voters could vote for her, but it would be tough to relaunch her campaign unless there was a ton of cohesive enthusiasm and support — and time. But months ago, heck yes. That's when the dems should have thrown her the full weight of their support, with joy. It's not like we don't have fantastic people ready to run, it's that we don't back them when they show up. And there's a theme here, somewhere...
I was rooting for you to call and report the anesthesiologist. Thank you.
Also, I don’t think there’s any way that a man can even have a clue about the scope of what women have to deal with every damn day. I’m thankful I’ve taught my daughter to be strong and not put up with shit from anybody.
I’m grateful you’ve taught her that, too, John. I think it’s a huge help when daughters have Dads who are not blind to what the world is like for girls and women, and are raised by men who like and respect girls and women, too. Huge help. Thanks so much for being here ❤️🩹
Same same w Katie Porter!! When will we learn? Also, I can imagine how hard and how very important it was that you made that call…and I’m so glad that there were actual consequences and he got fired.
The Katie Porter Effect is what we’ll have to call it. I mean it’s the emails joyous laughter misogyny effect, but yeah. Such a huge bummer. And it was harder than it should have been to make that call, but it’s such old programming! I’m also glad there were actual consequences. It’s a relief to know there are some regulatory boards that care! Huge hugs to you, MS. Thank you for being here ❤️🔥
That is so disturbing! Thank you for reporting (from all women—everywhere).
It's so confusing being a woman sometimes, isn't it? I wonder if men will ever understand how hard we try to get things right. Like, how much time and effort we spend trying to stay safe just existing in the world, and then when something like this happens, how we stop and think about not wanting to get someone fired. Not that every woman would, but I bet a lot of Gen X women would. The amount of energy exerted to unravel the conditioning and yeah. Of course when I thought about how unsafe it was, there wasn't any question about calling and reporting, but the fact that I had to work it out is the part that is hard to get across when you don't live it. Anyway, hugs and love to you, Laury <3
You know my politics. I love Janet Mills. Katie Porter, too. When will we ever learn? When will we ever learn.
I really don't know, Susan. I keep hoping. I continue to be disappointed, but I keep hoping. I have to say, out here in CA "the left coast" I was bitterly disappointed in the progressive feminists this election cycle. Like...really?? No love for Katie? No faith, no fire, no effort? Not good.
It’s very frustrating that they can’t see past their own manipulations. They think there’s this conventional wisdom about elections that still holds. The way to win is to step out of that and embrace people like Katie Porter full throttle. Stop apologizing for being women. You can’t solve the problem at the level of the problem. Ever.
Truly. And when the smear campaign starts (and it always does) we need to be ready. This is why I’m thinking some kind of perimenopausal/post menopausal nationwide digital street team of writers, artists — anyone with any kind of platform — should band together. Like a digital sisterhood. I wonder what would have happened if there had been this incredible swell of support for Katie Porter, and when they came for her with those clips, the ways we could have answered them quickly and profoundly if there were many of us? I dunno, I just think we need to be organized and ready and also fired up. We almost need like, deprogramming conversations for “women of a certain rage” or something. It was so easy to get rid of her. It was child’s play, they’re probably still laughing about how easy it was. It’s really under my skin as I’m sure you can tell! And Governor Mills? That campaign should have funded itself with the clip from the Governors’ lunch alone. Liberal “leadership” is not getting the memo. I suppose I’m wondering how we get progressive women and the people who love them — folks who are not necessarily inside the political system — to organize and support.
I agree with you, and would help. I also think it’s the consultant class who are not helping women politicians at all. Conventional wisdom is that women shouldn’t fight back. So stupid. If you lose either way, go down swinging.
This! So much this!
🤷🏻♀️thank you!
God that's so violating and gross. I'm glad you reported him. Men with no sense of boundaries have no business having that much power over people. Now that I think about it, maybe men are too emotional and irrational to have people's lives in their hands...🤔 #notallmen of course
It really is gross. Like…a vibe??? And I agree, some men are too emotional for many jobs! I’ve been flipping the script lately, Cody. For some reason the “not all men” men don’t seem to get butt hurt this way: I like men, some of my best friends are men. My son is one of my favorite humans in the world. Men can be wonderful. But, NOT ALL MEN.
Why is that easy to grasp, but it isn’t the other way? lol
Isn’t that crazy: men are supposedly the strong ones, but for the most part that’s just smoke. How can you be strong—or helpful—if you can’t get past flawed conceptions?
In my opinion you would have done us all a favor if you had turned that skunk doctor in, he gives us all a bad name, And, since some people are a bit whacky when I see women there is always another female on staff nearby, and I rarely see children alone. Trump is just the front man for the big tech bro boys. They picked him not because he is smart, not because he’s presidential and not because he knows a lot about diplomacy. The big tech bro boys chose him because they knew he had a history of being a great con man. Now the joke is on his Trumplicans, while the rest of us are hardly laughing. We can’t afford to laugh!!
Yeah, I mean I called my doctor's office and he was fired, and I filed a complaint with the California Medical Board, so I think that is "turning him in" as much as any of us can. I remember being contacted by an investigator at some point and providing a written statement, and I believe his actions fell under "Physician Misconduct." This was 14 years ago and I was in the early stages of single motherhood with two little kids and a business, so some of the details are fuzzy, but I know it was taken quite seriously. I do not remember if his license was suspended, but I feel sure he paid a hefty fine. Hopefully whatever happened, it scared the crap out of him and he never did anything like that again.
It makes me think of Gerhardt Konig, the anesthesiologist who tried to push his wife off a cliff in Oahu? https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cx2we6733jvo
I'm not saying the anesthesiologist in my situation was violent, but my point is, you don't want to have to question someone's judgment when they have access to drugs like these.
And yes, now it is becoming standard practice to have "medical chaperones" in the room for the safety of doctors and patients during intimate physical examinations, or anytime a patient is under anesthesia, which seems like a very smart thing for both the doctor and the patient.
As for the rest, I totally agree. I think the president was/is a Trojan Horse, and the tech bros rode in, along with a bunch of white nationalists, and now we're really "in it" as they say. I'd love to get out of it, I am definitely not laughing!
Thanks for being here, John.
As a new Mainer, I researched the people running for Senate carefully.
There are 3 people officially on the ballot (Mills suspended but is still on the ballot, Platner, and David Costello). There’s also a write-in named Andrea LaFlamme.
I’m beginning to understand how much people don’t like Mills, and she’s going to be 79 years old in December. She’s not ideal; probably my 4th choice.
Hi Joanne! I definitely don’t pretend to be an expert on Maine politics. I think to really know who the right candidates are you need to live in the state and know what’s working and what isn’t. My larger point is exactly that. I don’t think the liberal side of the equation is doing a good job vetting candidates if we’re getting down to the wire and being painted into a corner where the choices become Platner or Collins. I know Costello is on the ballot, but know nothing about him and I suspect at this late date it would be hard to get enough cohesive enthusiasm for anyone except the guy they threw their cohesive enthusiasm behind months ago. It would be good to have two or three candidates who appeal to different liberal leaning people in each state. Fully vetted, well ahead of time. I highlighted Governor Mills because from where I’m sitting in CA she seems like a principled governor who stood up to a childish bully and won. And she protects reproductive rights, a thing we need in this post-Roe world. But I am more frustrated and concerned about the lack of planning and backing of fantastic progressive women across the country. In my view, that’s what we need.
I was feeling such dread while reading about the call from the anesthesiologist, and wow I'm glad for you that you called and reported it. I completely understand the volleying thoughts you had over it. I had a father who treated his kids like it was our job to only consider him and his needs and nothing else. And yes, I recall Governor Mills, she was great. Thanks so much for this. 🧡
Nothing like a narcissistic dad to really get your wires crossed for a while 🫤
And yes, I’m glad I called, too. I’ve had so many times in my life when I tried to stand up for myself and wasn’t supported, and other times when I questioned whether something “rose to the level” so I am grateful I don’t struggle with that anymore! One of the many benefits of doing a lot of work on that old programming, but also having a daughter of my own.
I appreciate your comments, Margaret, and I’m so glad you’re here ❤️🩹
Identified with a lot of this about being raised to apologize and caretake for your father. What a creepy doctor. And because I don’t think anyone else has said it, I would think it can’t have been the first time he acted inappropriately, it was probably the first time he was reported for it.
Also, I had never heard about the conflicts in foreign development…that entire family is awful. I only hope this is provoking a worldwide backlash.
I’m so sorry you relate about my dad. It’s hard to have the first man you know be the one to teach you patterns that are so hard to overcome❤️🩹
And yes, I agree re the anesthesiologist. I think when someone crosses a line that far, it’s after they’ve crossed a thousand smaller lines before and gotten away with it.
As for Sazan Island corrupt “real estate deal”, it’s gets worse all the time. It’s one of those “follow the money” situations. So many conflicts of interest. It’s also clearly more than a luxury hotel they’re after.
Excellent independent journalism happening about the case here: https://alimcforever.substack.com/p/kushner-in-albania?r=gcqpo&utm_medium=ios
There is so much here, I don’t know where to begin. Brava, Ally.
Thanks for being here, Jazmine. And for the cheer. Means the world from you❤️
Kentucky fried Jesus Christ. The layers and layers of trespass. So much nope!
All I can say is, there's a reason the Furies are female. And it's not because they are "bitches."
Ha! So much nope indeed. And yes. The Furies. If I had a band, that would be the name! Though I’m sure that name is taken 🤣Thanks, Cabot.