I got so much out of this post - so many learnings and reminders. Thank you as always. “Changed behavior is a living apology. Words are easy” - very well said.
Thank you so much, Julia. I always gulp a little when the unsubscribes pour in (it always happens, it’s par for the course), so these early comments set my heart at ease. I appreciate you!!
Wow. This is so good as a whole, but there were so many nuggets within that stand by themselves. Deciding not to be a shitweasel. Choosing kindness. Who assigned you to care. Loving the constitution.
What has disappointed me most the last 10 years, and especially this year, are the people who claim to be good people who choose not to see the reality around us. There are friends and acquaintances I’ve quietly distanced myself from, not because of politics, but because of their lack of values and the casual cruelty.
I could have written this myself, Susan. I have felt so disappointed by so many people. People I thought never would have watched while their friends were treated poorly, or shrugged it off, or decided to focus on other things. I think those are the people who amaze me the most, the ones who know very well what’s happening, but don’t care because they feel insulated for whatever reason. It’s astounding and heartbreaking. Hugs to you. You’re definitely not alone in those feelings x
I hated reading this for all the reasons one should hate it. Because of the pain and all the casual injustice that frankly only a lawsuit could have touched. Those people didn't care enough (or were not thankful enough that you didn't sue) to ask you how he was.
Yes, it’s true, some people will only care when it hurts them, personally. Sadly we are seeing a lot of that right now.
As it turned out, the school failed on its own and was shuttered a few years later. Maybe more than a few, it might have been five years? But we’d long been at the new school by then, which turned out to be a gem for both of my kids. And they might have been too little to totally understand why we switched, but I think it was a good seed to plant - we don’t stay in a place where people don’t treat us well. It’s so hard when your own country starts to be a place where you don’t feel safe. Hopefully we can turn things around. Thanks for being here, Julie ❤️🩹
I fell of the monkey bars in first grade in 1976 and broke my elbow. I was too scared to go to the nurse. The awful teacher I had…. Said stop crying and I’ll call your mom and you won’t have to do your work book. Some things just keep being recycled. Broken elbows, abortion rights, and all you do eloquently wrote.
Ugh. The whole “stop crying” thing hurts my heart. I can’t even count how many times I tried not to cry as a kid. Or tried not to feel whatever I was feeling because a grownup told me not to. As if we could just stuff the feelings down and they’d evaporate 🙊🙉🙈Anyway, I thank you for being here. I wish we did not have to keep fighting the same fights. New ones would at least feel like some kind of progress. Smh. Hugs, onward, nevertheless we persist ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
Thank you for this. They would deport that rabble-rousing left-wing-lunatic bleeding-heart love-thy-neighbor blessed-are-the-meek Jesus guy in a NY minute—also Noah, Moses, Abraham, Isaac, Ishmael, Sarah, Cain, Able, Adam, Eve: the whole lot of them wild-eyed prophetic types. It’s one thing to know not what you are doing, and quite another to choose to not know, choose to not care. 💗
It really is a terrible thing to reckon with, but I guess I’d rather know than not. Of course, what I’d really prefer is that no one was willing to allow people to suffer this way. It’s amazing and horrifying to see people justify cruelty “in the name of the lord” …
Your precious son’s baby face—how could anyone make him bend his arm?? And the minister shot in the head with rubber bullets? And the young girl who was pepper sprayed directly in her face? I cannot get these images out of my mind. How do people not see??
I don’t know, truly. I don’t understand how anyone could watch the minister getting shot in the head or the woman getting pepper sprayed in the face, or the mother last week being thrown to the floor in the vestibule of the courthouse because she had the audacity to be devastated her husband was being detained and deported after they attended their immigration appointment - and be like, good. That wouldn’t have happened if they’d stayed home. Or whatever insane way people justify these things.
The nurse with my son’s arm…I mean, I can give her the benefit of the doubt. I’m sure when he first came in it wasn’t as swollen as it became and I have no doubt she believed it wasn’t broken. Do I think it was insane that she made him bend and straighten his arm in any case? 100% yes. But I can forgive that part and trust she didn’t mean to cause him further harm. The not calling to check on him after she knew it was broken? No fucking way. Smh.
Thank you, Francesca. And I don’t know, honestly. I’m exhausted by the people who are supporting this madness and even before all this, I’ve always been exhausted by people who can’t just be kind. It’s so much easier than any of the other options!!
OH... monkey bars! When I was a kid, I fell while playing on monkey bars and bit my tongue halfway off... needed 6 stitches. I'm 52 years old (oof! 🤫) now and still have the scar.
Ouch!!! They really are insane lol, especially the ones we grew up with. I fell through this rainbow shaped metal bar contraption and hit my nose on the way down. I didn’t break it but it bled like a geyser and scared me and all my friends. I think we all thought I was going to die, it was so much blood. Or so it seemed, I was five 🤣
I got so much out of this post - so many learnings and reminders. Thank you as always. “Changed behavior is a living apology. Words are easy” - very well said.
Thank you so much, Julia. I always gulp a little when the unsubscribes pour in (it always happens, it’s par for the course), so these early comments set my heart at ease. I appreciate you!!
Wow. This is so good as a whole, but there were so many nuggets within that stand by themselves. Deciding not to be a shitweasel. Choosing kindness. Who assigned you to care. Loving the constitution.
What has disappointed me most the last 10 years, and especially this year, are the people who claim to be good people who choose not to see the reality around us. There are friends and acquaintances I’ve quietly distanced myself from, not because of politics, but because of their lack of values and the casual cruelty.
I could have written this myself, Susan. I have felt so disappointed by so many people. People I thought never would have watched while their friends were treated poorly, or shrugged it off, or decided to focus on other things. I think those are the people who amaze me the most, the ones who know very well what’s happening, but don’t care because they feel insulated for whatever reason. It’s astounding and heartbreaking. Hugs to you. You’re definitely not alone in those feelings x
I hated reading this for all the reasons one should hate it. Because of the pain and all the casual injustice that frankly only a lawsuit could have touched. Those people didn't care enough (or were not thankful enough that you didn't sue) to ask you how he was.
What a failure of a school.
What a world we live in.
Yes, it’s true, some people will only care when it hurts them, personally. Sadly we are seeing a lot of that right now.
As it turned out, the school failed on its own and was shuttered a few years later. Maybe more than a few, it might have been five years? But we’d long been at the new school by then, which turned out to be a gem for both of my kids. And they might have been too little to totally understand why we switched, but I think it was a good seed to plant - we don’t stay in a place where people don’t treat us well. It’s so hard when your own country starts to be a place where you don’t feel safe. Hopefully we can turn things around. Thanks for being here, Julie ❤️🩹
I fell of the monkey bars in first grade in 1976 and broke my elbow. I was too scared to go to the nurse. The awful teacher I had…. Said stop crying and I’ll call your mom and you won’t have to do your work book. Some things just keep being recycled. Broken elbows, abortion rights, and all you do eloquently wrote.
Ugh. The whole “stop crying” thing hurts my heart. I can’t even count how many times I tried not to cry as a kid. Or tried not to feel whatever I was feeling because a grownup told me not to. As if we could just stuff the feelings down and they’d evaporate 🙊🙉🙈Anyway, I thank you for being here. I wish we did not have to keep fighting the same fights. New ones would at least feel like some kind of progress. Smh. Hugs, onward, nevertheless we persist ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
Thank you for this. They would deport that rabble-rousing left-wing-lunatic bleeding-heart love-thy-neighbor blessed-are-the-meek Jesus guy in a NY minute—also Noah, Moses, Abraham, Isaac, Ishmael, Sarah, Cain, Able, Adam, Eve: the whole lot of them wild-eyed prophetic types. It’s one thing to know not what you are doing, and quite another to choose to not know, choose to not care. 💗
It really is a terrible thing to reckon with, but I guess I’d rather know than not. Of course, what I’d really prefer is that no one was willing to allow people to suffer this way. It’s amazing and horrifying to see people justify cruelty “in the name of the lord” …
A large chunk of humanity has lost its humanity.
Your precious son’s baby face—how could anyone make him bend his arm?? And the minister shot in the head with rubber bullets? And the young girl who was pepper sprayed directly in her face? I cannot get these images out of my mind. How do people not see??
I don’t know, truly. I don’t understand how anyone could watch the minister getting shot in the head or the woman getting pepper sprayed in the face, or the mother last week being thrown to the floor in the vestibule of the courthouse because she had the audacity to be devastated her husband was being detained and deported after they attended their immigration appointment - and be like, good. That wouldn’t have happened if they’d stayed home. Or whatever insane way people justify these things.
The nurse with my son’s arm…I mean, I can give her the benefit of the doubt. I’m sure when he first came in it wasn’t as swollen as it became and I have no doubt she believed it wasn’t broken. Do I think it was insane that she made him bend and straighten his arm in any case? 100% yes. But I can forgive that part and trust she didn’t mean to cause him further harm. The not calling to check on him after she knew it was broken? No fucking way. Smh.
Thank god only some people are shitweasels.
Shitweasel is my new favorite word. <3
That last line. My god. Loving you is easy math. Also, you're just phenomenal at this writing stuff.
Aw girl, loving you is easy math, too!! The easiest!! And I thank you and return the sentiment wholeheartedly 🥹🙏🏼
This is so good, Ally. Why everyone doesn’t think like this beats me! 🙏
Right?! Anyone who disagrees? I don’t want them anywhere near me.
Thank you, Francesca. And I don’t know, honestly. I’m exhausted by the people who are supporting this madness and even before all this, I’ve always been exhausted by people who can’t just be kind. It’s so much easier than any of the other options!!
OH... monkey bars! When I was a kid, I fell while playing on monkey bars and bit my tongue halfway off... needed 6 stitches. I'm 52 years old (oof! 🤫) now and still have the scar.
Ouch!!! They really are insane lol, especially the ones we grew up with. I fell through this rainbow shaped metal bar contraption and hit my nose on the way down. I didn’t break it but it bled like a geyser and scared me and all my friends. I think we all thought I was going to die, it was so much blood. Or so it seemed, I was five 🤣
Yes!! I've had nose injuries like that also... a ton of blood!! Our toys were deadly! 😆