Can you just imagine what would have happened to Jeffrey Goldberg if he had leaked the entire text conversation? Imagine what sort of repercussions he'd face while Pete Hegseth's over there saying, Wait, no, my name is Hete Pegseth, that wasn't me in the chat.
Love that you just stared at battery dude without saying anything. That is the energy I'm trying to channel instead of laughing nervously or trying to make a guy like that feel comfortable and entitled to comment on my business or get in my space. You gave him what he deserved, which was nothing.
It's all so disgusting. Jeffrey Goldberg is over there, staring at his phone astounded by what's happening, and these absolute idiots are sending fist-bump emojis and American flags and "fire" emojis, congratulating themselves like this is some kind of video game. Human beings died, five children amongst them. What kind of people send emojis in a group chat after killing children? They knew civilians would die. Meanwhile, Goldberg doesn't release anything that could make a terrible situation even worse, put more lives in danger, and show the entire world how wildly unfit this entire administration is - and they say the information wasn't classified. SMH. It sounds like he is going to release more of the texts, and I hope he releases whatever he must to shut this down without putting anyone at further risk. Maybe he can redact or something.
And yes, I have finally perfected the stare, but it isn't easy. I have to will my face to do nothing because I was taught to save men from their own bullshit, to take an uncomfortable moment and make it okay, to laugh along, to be "in" on the joke. Sometimes I've done that because if I didn't I'd put myself in danger. You have to choose your moments, but in broad daylight, on my own street with the Triple A guy right there, I felt safe. It's very satisfying.
how you wove your story from something so "banal" (the car not starting) to something so desperately dire, intricate, sinister, via the "normalcy" of the "obnoxious man" and the "embarrassed for all men lovelier man", ending with the sweet joy of your kids being home... I was gripped.. my heart pounding.
What a holy shit show. It’s becoming tired to say this. But if you made this shit up, no one would believe it was anything but a parody of stupidity, lecherousness, debauchery, and dishonesty. Yikes.
Another brilliant take.
Enjoy those kiddos. What a joy to have them with you.
There is a political figure in the novel Stranger in a Strange Land whose time has finally arrived. Somehow Heinlein was able to extrapolate from the late 1950s to the present moment. I should read it again. Maybe that would help in being able to grok the current madness…and plan for a less mad future, if such a thing is even possible.
It’s so hard to figure out what’s possible right now, isn’t it? I have no sense of how this is all going to play out, and part of me would love to see a glimpse into the future 10 years down the line, and another part of me isn’t at all sure I’d like to have that opportunity. Maybe better to take it one day at a time. Hugs to you, David.
Soak up every minute with your babies, brilliant writer, and take a break from the insanity. Another clear-eyed and concise essay that captures what sputter-brains like myself can only mutter about in obscenity-ridden growls. Of course these are the same men! Thanks for putting it together.
Thank you, Helia. I am, I’m trying to store some (love and joy) away for later like a squirrel haha. If only. Hugs and love to you, across the interwebs ❤️♥️
Nailed it. At my age I'm so so so tired of the bullshit. And one of those people who has a fabulous partner, and he's an ally, thank god. Until reading this, I hadn't done the extrapolation you have, to how pervasive that narcissistic trait is playing out. Just brilliant. I just read Careless People. Talk about the cluelessness, it was mind blowing to see in print. No matter what you think about her motivations for writing it, it confirmed everything I ever intuited about FB.
I happened to catch that Hegseth denial live, and there was something in the furrowed brow, and the panting, and aggressive, trapped animal energy that was so familiar I almost could not believe it. Been on the receiving end of that bs so many times. Vance has the same frat boy energy, the same "how dare you hold me accountable for the things I've done" stance. Wild, isn't it? I just ordered Careless People, I'm so glad you said that. I'd meant to preorder, but things have been a little crazy for us all! Looking forward to it. And so glad you're here, Nina :)
Yes, bring back the timeline when your neighbor’s worst offense was letting his dog crap on your lawn. That sucked and wasn’t cool, but I’d take it any day over the crap we’re dealing with now! Though it’s probably the same breed of entitled asshole, just on steroids. Peace and love, Peter! Hang in there ❤️
Oh my, what a shit show! I keep feeling like I'm in a very dark humor dystopian comedy series. Stuff like that on screen would be found exaggerated, that can't happen irl... but it happens. We're right in it. Thanks for your writing. It helps. Enjoy your kids
Same. It feels crazy but it’s real. Happy and grateful to meet other disoriented people on the timeline, though. That’s about the only thing keeping me sane! And thanks ☺️ enjoying the last few hours before I have to drive him to the airport 🥲
"Trump, peace president" has some true Red Queen energy to it. I hadn't heard that, so I googled it and found the drivel put out by the White House.
Now that we've seen how his deportation schemes are playing out, it seems we can add Pol Pot to his idols. Surely he will turn his sights to the Blue states if given the chance.
Sometimes the gaslighting and cognitive dissonance really make my brain hurt. It's all exhausting, and where it used to infuriate me, now I just expect it. A thing can happen right in front of us, and they'll get on camera, right there and without an ounce of shame, and say the thing we just saw did not happen. And also whatever did happen, not that anything did, but if it did, it's because of Biden. Biden being shorthand for woke libs.
And I agree, I don't think any of us are safe. I think he hates blue states, so if there's a way to punish them, he will. Look at the bs over federal aid for the wildfires out here in CA, or how he's demanding a "full-throated" apology from Governor Janet Mills in Maine.
So spot on, as always. I am in Europe right now, visiting my (suddenly all grown up) kid. Our insanity looks and feels even worse from this vantage point. I remember coming here in 2002 and feeling uneasy about being American. Now I feel embarrassed and ashamed, something unfathomable when I was my kid's age. I see lots about seizing what joy we can--and I am, really, because I believe we need to--but it's getting harder to feel okay about feeling joy when we've unloosed this threat to the whole world. Keep reminding myself it's these kind of dick men ( and their pick me women) who are truly to blame. Thanks for making that easier to do this morning.
I so understand your feelings. I am beyond sad and embarrassed to be part of a country that has brought such horrendous people onto the world stage, into rooms where they never should have been, and places where they can cause so much suffering to so many. And I am horrified and heartbroken for all of our kids. I just have to hope we will somehow pull it together and get these people removed. Or find some other way to turn things around before it’s too late. I’m glad you’re with your grown up child. And I do hope you can soak in the love. I’m not giving up on us. Try to enjoy your time there, take as much of a break from this insanity as possible and remember there are so many of us who never wanted any of this. I’m really glad this helped a little. Hugs and love ❤️
Perfectly articulated Ally. I am beyond outraged and not at all surprised as it’s so text book gaslighting, hypocritical nonsense that is literally dangerous. And, echoing the sentiments to enjoy your big littles.
Thank you, Genessa. And yes, the gaslighting and lack of accountability is so on-brand they should just change the name of the party already, or at least create some merch. SMH. Hugs and love to you ❤️
thanks ally, great writing and sentiments, from John d, afer just finishing an astanga yoga week with richard freeman in thailand. its so sad sometimes that my descriptors, white ,male, is oft equal to code for deluded and unconscious
Hi John! Well, thankfully that is not always the case. There are also the wonderful guys like you, and my son, and many select others. But I am thinking you may need to start holding some kind of remedial white man workshops. Just band together with the other good men, and gather up your brethren. We'd really appreciate it lol. Like, a LOT. Hope you're well, so good to hear from you :)
Zuck’s pissed they weren’t using WhatsApp. Feels betrayed. Dis-inviting them all from next Sunday’s bbq at the Tesla dealership.
Oh and btw, did you know cars don’t need batteries?
It’s madness, Ally. Enjoy your babes while they’re home. xo
The “BBQ” at the Tesla dealership 🤣 And yeah, batteries last forever if you treat them right lol. What a shit show.
Super grateful for a little time with both my sweets ❤️❤️ and for the incredible friends in my life (you, duh) xo
Can you just imagine what would have happened to Jeffrey Goldberg if he had leaked the entire text conversation? Imagine what sort of repercussions he'd face while Pete Hegseth's over there saying, Wait, no, my name is Hete Pegseth, that wasn't me in the chat.
Love that you just stared at battery dude without saying anything. That is the energy I'm trying to channel instead of laughing nervously or trying to make a guy like that feel comfortable and entitled to comment on my business or get in my space. You gave him what he deserved, which was nothing.
It's all so disgusting. Jeffrey Goldberg is over there, staring at his phone astounded by what's happening, and these absolute idiots are sending fist-bump emojis and American flags and "fire" emojis, congratulating themselves like this is some kind of video game. Human beings died, five children amongst them. What kind of people send emojis in a group chat after killing children? They knew civilians would die. Meanwhile, Goldberg doesn't release anything that could make a terrible situation even worse, put more lives in danger, and show the entire world how wildly unfit this entire administration is - and they say the information wasn't classified. SMH. It sounds like he is going to release more of the texts, and I hope he releases whatever he must to shut this down without putting anyone at further risk. Maybe he can redact or something.
And yes, I have finally perfected the stare, but it isn't easy. I have to will my face to do nothing because I was taught to save men from their own bullshit, to take an uncomfortable moment and make it okay, to laugh along, to be "in" on the joke. Sometimes I've done that because if I didn't I'd put myself in danger. You have to choose your moments, but in broad daylight, on my own street with the Triple A guy right there, I felt safe. It's very satisfying.
how you wove your story from something so "banal" (the car not starting) to something so desperately dire, intricate, sinister, via the "normalcy" of the "obnoxious man" and the "embarrassed for all men lovelier man", ending with the sweet joy of your kids being home... I was gripped.. my heart pounding.
Such rich writing, Ally
thank you for keeping vigilant.
Thank you so much, Emma, I really appreciate it. And I’m very grateful you’re here 🤍
What a holy shit show. It’s becoming tired to say this. But if you made this shit up, no one would believe it was anything but a parody of stupidity, lecherousness, debauchery, and dishonesty. Yikes.
Another brilliant take.
Enjoy those kiddos. What a joy to have them with you.
It really is insane. I don’t even know how SNL turns it into satire, it’s basically just a documentary 🤷🏻♀️😳 Wtf Holly?!
There is a political figure in the novel Stranger in a Strange Land whose time has finally arrived. Somehow Heinlein was able to extrapolate from the late 1950s to the present moment. I should read it again. Maybe that would help in being able to grok the current madness…and plan for a less mad future, if such a thing is even possible.
It’s so hard to figure out what’s possible right now, isn’t it? I have no sense of how this is all going to play out, and part of me would love to see a glimpse into the future 10 years down the line, and another part of me isn’t at all sure I’d like to have that opportunity. Maybe better to take it one day at a time. Hugs to you, David.
Soak up every minute with your babies, brilliant writer, and take a break from the insanity. Another clear-eyed and concise essay that captures what sputter-brains like myself can only mutter about in obscenity-ridden growls. Of course these are the same men! Thanks for putting it together.
Thank you, Helia. I am, I’m trying to store some (love and joy) away for later like a squirrel haha. If only. Hugs and love to you, across the interwebs ❤️♥️
Nailed it. At my age I'm so so so tired of the bullshit. And one of those people who has a fabulous partner, and he's an ally, thank god. Until reading this, I hadn't done the extrapolation you have, to how pervasive that narcissistic trait is playing out. Just brilliant. I just read Careless People. Talk about the cluelessness, it was mind blowing to see in print. No matter what you think about her motivations for writing it, it confirmed everything I ever intuited about FB.
I happened to catch that Hegseth denial live, and there was something in the furrowed brow, and the panting, and aggressive, trapped animal energy that was so familiar I almost could not believe it. Been on the receiving end of that bs so many times. Vance has the same frat boy energy, the same "how dare you hold me accountable for the things I've done" stance. Wild, isn't it? I just ordered Careless People, I'm so glad you said that. I'd meant to preorder, but things have been a little crazy for us all! Looking forward to it. And so glad you're here, Nina :)
Hi Ally, thank you for another essay making me feel better about being pissed off by pretty much the same stuff as you.
To be honest I'd rather be pissed off about less important stuff, but here we are.
Wishing you and your family all the best in these strange times. Thank you for sharing your voice.
Namaste ❤️🙏
Yes, bring back the timeline when your neighbor’s worst offense was letting his dog crap on your lawn. That sucked and wasn’t cool, but I’d take it any day over the crap we’re dealing with now! Though it’s probably the same breed of entitled asshole, just on steroids. Peace and love, Peter! Hang in there ❤️
Oh my, what a shit show! I keep feeling like I'm in a very dark humor dystopian comedy series. Stuff like that on screen would be found exaggerated, that can't happen irl... but it happens. We're right in it. Thanks for your writing. It helps. Enjoy your kids
Same. It feels crazy but it’s real. Happy and grateful to meet other disoriented people on the timeline, though. That’s about the only thing keeping me sane! And thanks ☺️ enjoying the last few hours before I have to drive him to the airport 🥲
"Trump, peace president" has some true Red Queen energy to it. I hadn't heard that, so I googled it and found the drivel put out by the White House.
Now that we've seen how his deportation schemes are playing out, it seems we can add Pol Pot to his idols. Surely he will turn his sights to the Blue states if given the chance.
Sometimes the gaslighting and cognitive dissonance really make my brain hurt. It's all exhausting, and where it used to infuriate me, now I just expect it. A thing can happen right in front of us, and they'll get on camera, right there and without an ounce of shame, and say the thing we just saw did not happen. And also whatever did happen, not that anything did, but if it did, it's because of Biden. Biden being shorthand for woke libs.
And I agree, I don't think any of us are safe. I think he hates blue states, so if there's a way to punish them, he will. Look at the bs over federal aid for the wildfires out here in CA, or how he's demanding a "full-throated" apology from Governor Janet Mills in Maine.
I'm in Massachusetts. New Englanders do not crack easily. That doesn't mean we're not worried though.
So spot on, as always. I am in Europe right now, visiting my (suddenly all grown up) kid. Our insanity looks and feels even worse from this vantage point. I remember coming here in 2002 and feeling uneasy about being American. Now I feel embarrassed and ashamed, something unfathomable when I was my kid's age. I see lots about seizing what joy we can--and I am, really, because I believe we need to--but it's getting harder to feel okay about feeling joy when we've unloosed this threat to the whole world. Keep reminding myself it's these kind of dick men ( and their pick me women) who are truly to blame. Thanks for making that easier to do this morning.
I so understand your feelings. I am beyond sad and embarrassed to be part of a country that has brought such horrendous people onto the world stage, into rooms where they never should have been, and places where they can cause so much suffering to so many. And I am horrified and heartbroken for all of our kids. I just have to hope we will somehow pull it together and get these people removed. Or find some other way to turn things around before it’s too late. I’m glad you’re with your grown up child. And I do hope you can soak in the love. I’m not giving up on us. Try to enjoy your time there, take as much of a break from this insanity as possible and remember there are so many of us who never wanted any of this. I’m really glad this helped a little. Hugs and love ❤️
Perfectly articulated Ally. I am beyond outraged and not at all surprised as it’s so text book gaslighting, hypocritical nonsense that is literally dangerous. And, echoing the sentiments to enjoy your big littles.
Thank you, Genessa. And yes, the gaslighting and lack of accountability is so on-brand they should just change the name of the party already, or at least create some merch. SMH. Hugs and love to you ❤️
thanks ally, great writing and sentiments, from John d, afer just finishing an astanga yoga week with richard freeman in thailand. its so sad sometimes that my descriptors, white ,male, is oft equal to code for deluded and unconscious
Hi John! Well, thankfully that is not always the case. There are also the wonderful guys like you, and my son, and many select others. But I am thinking you may need to start holding some kind of remedial white man workshops. Just band together with the other good men, and gather up your brethren. We'd really appreciate it lol. Like, a LOT. Hope you're well, so good to hear from you :)