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Untrickled by Michelle Teheux's avatar

I feel all of this so much

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Ally Hamilton's avatar

Thanks for saying that. The last whatever it’s been…30 hours or something, have really kicked my ass, Michelle.

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Untrickled by Michelle Teheux's avatar

Me too. And I’m lying awake in pain (dog attack) and the world just feels so terribly lost.

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Ally Hamilton's avatar

Omg!! I just saw your video, Michelle. That looks terrible and I’m so sorry that happened to you 😩😩😩

I had a similar thing happen years ago. A woman walked by my yard with her dog and asked if she could bring the dog in to play with mine. I stupidly assumed she wouldn’t ask unless she knew her dog was friendly so I said yes, and her dog attacked my dog, and she froze. So of course I dove in.

I don’t understand people who don’t know their dogs. Or do right by other people and other dogs. I hope you have something for the pain. I’m sending you tons of love and hugs. Last thing you needed 😞

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Steve Strutt's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story and conviction for a better world for all.

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Ally Hamilton's avatar

Thank you Steve. Really hoping we can pull together somehow. Hugs.

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Dr Cathy Howlett's avatar

So sad for you all Ally. For all of us. So very fucking sad 💔.

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Ally Hamilton's avatar

Thank you, Cathy. Me, too. I’m usually hopeful and I’m going to pull myself out of this tailspin, but yes. Just feeling really sad right now for all of us. Sending you tons of love and hugs ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

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Wendy Wolf's avatar

I still don't know how you do it. The only note I restacked about this yesterday was yours. I wrote so many things and deleted them. I'm so fucking angry and broken and I cannot put together a coherent thought. Cruel, violent assholes have been fucking up the world for a very long time. And I'm so sorry for young you. There are a lot of horrific people in the world and most of them have children. I've been reading Tiny Beautiful Things and so much of it reminds me of my childhood. I may have to put it down for a little while. Fuck. I hate this. But I love you. I am still full of love for everything beautiful and kind and good.

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Ally Hamilton's avatar

This is the worst I’ve felt in a while. I thought I’d really culled my social media feeds, but wow was I wrong. It was just so depressing on top of how depressing reality is right now. All these people expressing despair over a guy I find reprehensible in every way. But no despair for kids week after week, year after year.

Goes without saying no one should die that way, and far fewer people would if we could have some sane gun control legislation. Ugh whatever I’m just preaching to the choir. I just didn’t realize how many racists and bigots I know I guess. It’s not close friends of course, it’s the wider community. It’s sickening. The whole “he just liked to have open conversation” - no he fucking didn’t. And if you’ve never said a word about gun violence until today, you’ve shown me who you are.

So anyway. I love and adore you and I wish we lived closer so much. Sending you love and hugs and hoping we pull out of this insanity somehow. We have to 💞💞💞

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Victoria Heron's avatar

Thank you, Ally, for putting into words what I have been struggling to express about the shooting. Violence is disgusting and it’s also disgusting to see how people who are silent about fucking children being killed feel the need to grieve this. Literally a Jewish yoga teacher therapist I know who teaches EFT and holds women’s circles is posting about her grief and despair over why good people die! Riddle me that! He was a deplorable human and the way the right is already spreading propaganda and lies to insight further violence is terrifying

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Ally Hamilton's avatar

The bizarro world we’re in is what starts to really wear at me I think. How anyone could look at this guy and listen to the words coming out of his mouth and then feel “despair” and say he’s a good person? He was not a good person. And the fact that we have shootings all the time is insane and unfathomable and the way he died is terrible and pointless. Both of those things can be true.

I was listening to Jim Acosta earlier and I really like him, I think he’s great. He was talking to Mary Trump. It was a fascinating conversation, but at a certain point Jim said it was too bad Charlie Kirk wasn’t still here, that it was too bad his voice was no longer part of the conversation. Something about it being good to have opposing viewpoints or something. And I thought, “no it’s not.”

It’s too bad he was murdered in cold blood, 100%. I hope we pass sane gun control legislation. But I do not think the voice of a racist, misogynistic bigot is a voice we need to include in “the conversation.” I don’t even think Jim meant it, that’s the thing. I think people are twisting themselves in knots. It’s okay to have boundaries. We don’t have to invite everyone to the table. If you say reprehensible shit about Black people, about women, about gay people, I don’t care about your views. I’m not interested.

And I have a ton of yoga teachers in my feeds and it’s wild. I have muted so many people. And unfriended some, too. I’m so glad you’re here, Victoria ❤️‍🩹

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Ged's avatar

You don’t need to be Christian - I am not - to acknowledge that the location of the doors is given in the Bible; as it is in most of the great books (religious or not).

It‘s Luke 17:21.

Neither shall they say it’s here nor there, for you see, the kingdom of god is within you.

There is no safe place as in worldly location that you can lead your friends to. And it is true - they want war. In fact, thats the lower end of the atrocities that they want to unleash.

But that doesn’t mean there is no safety or no place to stay. The truly human community - the kingdom of god, if there ever was one or if there ever will be - shines brighter as it gets dark. All the stories, all the warmth that get taken for granted during better times miraculously light up.

Take the way you Report about your own life - wonderfully written, by the way, I interrupted my gym workout to read it and was captivated. I am sorry about the stuff that happened to you. I am sorry about the way your father objectified you. I am still grateful to hear you telling about it. Grateful to feel how despite it all, in so many people, the hope for something better remains. Something that apparently cannot be extinguished. Something that will stand in the way of the war. Something that won’t back down.

There is a safety in that.Its the sparks that light the fire that drives ICE out of Richmond.

And it’s a good enough reason to not be afraid. Neither here nor there nor wherever they will force their war on us.

I don’t want to act as if it was all good. I just wanted to thank you for being there and being up for it. We will win.

I guess what I wanted to convey is pretty much the same thing as Rosa in her prison letter. I had found a translation once - if you don’t know it, I think you might enjoy it.

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Ally Hamilton's avatar

Thank you for this, Ged, I appreciate it very much. I’m weary right now, I will bounce back, I always do. I like it when you say “We will win” with such certainty. I’m going to hold onto that. And I shall go read the Christmas letter. Hope you have a good workout :) Hugs.

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Mary Varner Hutto's avatar

I posted this to a friend yesterday as I was horrified at what females I knew were posting about being devastated.

Don’t know anything about him and never even heard his voice. I assume he had a podcast since everyone does nowadays. Such a sad legacy to leave for his family that he evidently said so many horrible things. I do find it disturbing that I have been posting about school shootings on Facebook for almost 13 years and that never gets much attention. I have also marched, written essays about, written my Senators and Congresspersons, called local and state education superintendents about implementing Sandy Hook programs in our schools to help curb the murders of children. I guess killing kids is too political. I believe our President said we just need to get over it.

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