I also went to some thoroughly inappropriate movies when I was a kiddo, including "Manhattan" at age eleven. My mom always joked I was born 40 years old. 'Nuf said.
FUCK Vance and the "boys will be boys" horseshit. Boys will be savages and we're just supposed to nod and smile. NOPE. Gen X women ain't playing. Great post as always ❤️
Yes, I used to get that all the time. “You’re an old soul,” or my mother’s favorite, “you were born with a little melancholia about you” 🤣🤣🤣 No the fuck I was not. You can make someone an old soul pretty quick by handing them too much responsibility (and taking them to Manhattan too soon lol)…and the melancholia *might* have had something do to with her alcoholism 😬 o
Oh, whatever. Vance can kiss my ass, Eileen. He’s such a smug, awful little weasel. Love + hugs xo
This is so powerful, so true. I’ve read much of what you’ve written, Ally, and this has impacted me as much as anything… do you mind if I share it with friends on other platforms?
Yes! Of course when I looked it up I remembered it was based on a book (I never read the book, but I think my stepmom may have had it), but Kathleen Quinlan, oof. I was thinking about rewatching the film now. Haven’t seen it since I was six! Thank you, Liz, and thank you for being here❤️
It’s wild, isn’t it? All the things that didn’t go over our heads! And yes, rage is good fuel, thankfully, though it took me a very long time to figure that out and harness it. Better late than never as they say. Thank you for being here, Bonita❤️
I love the fire and truth-telling that comes out of you in the wee hours of the morning. It crackles. Also, there's some Michelin Star level mastery cooked into this piece! Somehow you took me from totally relatable inappropriate GenX movie viewing (Rosemary's Baby for an eight year old, REALLY DAD??) to that horrible text thread to the infuriating way we keep letting boys off the hook for all the horrors they inflict. Brava, Ally!!!
Rosemary’s Baby at eight — I am dead Kendall. I mean, this is what I’m saying, there are too many of us for it not to have been “a thing” and I don’t know how we are remotely okay. And yet here we all are with our gallows humor and insane memories.
And thank you for my Michelin Star review🤩🙏🏼🤣 I really appreciate it. I did a lot of surgery on this one and lost some sleep and had to rework the sauce a few times, (and might have thrown a pot or two across the kitchen at some point) so it means a lot 🥹❤️
Thank you so much, Helia. I sweat it out with this one, so I appreciate your kind words that much more. Ugliness abounds, but for some reason, I still have a lot of hope and resolve. I suppose I refuse to believe there are that many people who want a world that looks like those text messages. Sending you tons of love ❤️
First off: Jaws. That’s it. That’s the first off. I still haven’t recovered.
Second: I think we tripped some evil tuber delay switch in the matrix when we ostracized Dan Quayle for spelling potato wrong. The spawn, all these years later, is Vance and he’s rotten to the core.
This is right on and stunningly written, as always. You’re so fucking good at this, Ally.
I mean, Jaws. I didn’t sit down on a toilet for 6 months after I saw it because I was afraid a baby shark might come up the pipes and bite my ass off.
And truly, bring back the likes of Dan Quayle and/or George W. What I would not give to be laughing about that kind of bullshit. Not that I agreed with them on anything, but I wasn’t constantly worried about…everything.
And thank you. I was seriously up until 5 AM because I couldn’t get this to do what I wanted it to do until then, and even then I wasn’t totally sure it was doing what I wanted it to do, but I also had no brain cells left at that point. So thank you for this.
And Vance can fuck all the way off. He’s so disgusting if you wrote him as a character you’d get a note that it was too over the top and not believable that a person could be so vile. AND YET.
Great post. I'm home sick the past few days and have been looking at what's on TV and available for streaming and so much of it is horrible. It can't be good for any of us. (That's not even counting the news). Violent, scary, competitive in a mean way- yuck. We can't pump all the crap on the internet, on social media, on TV into brains of any ages and think people will be happy and well adjusted. I'm older, though, so maybe I don't get it.
No, I don’t think it’s good at any age! It’s all “food” one way or the other. We’re feeding our minds, and who wants a steady diet of horror and violence? I’m sorry you haven’t been feeling well, and I hope you’re feeling better soon, Pat. Thank you for being here ❤️🩹
You know I never read the book, I saw the film that one time when I was six and stored it there in my cerebral cortex until I heard the song lol. But that sounds right, yes! She had a mythical land she created that seemed to help with her schizophrenia and that was part of what scared me as a kid I think. The land was a safe place at first and then it wasn’t anymore. I think I will rewatch the movie and maybe order the book, too! But not Brainwaves! Don’t need to see that again 😳
The title alone was a treasure. Thank you for reminding everyone of the fuckery. I've gotten to the point where I hate talking about it, so I'm awfully glad you do. I watched movies when I was a kid that I can't stomach now. My mother loved prison and asylum movies. Our father used to take us to see the Dr. Phibes movies at the drive in. I had a phobia of bees for decades. Our input affects us. I'm much more mindful of that now, because I am still impressionable. Love + hugs, ma'am.
It’s funny because I was going to write about memory this week and take a break from all the fuckery, but then the Telegram chat happened and I couldn’t do it. Especially with Vance doubling, tripling and quadrupling down, and that woman with her “outage” comment 🤣🫣 I had a whole part about short term memory and George Miller and “The Magical Number Seven Plus or Minus Two” - and also mirror neurons, but anyway. That part is now sitting in drafts in case I can use it for something else. I spent the better part of the last 3 days figuring it how to bring the Hunting Wives, the rose garden and the Telegram chat together. Finally satisfied at about 5 am this morning which is when I thought of the title. Turns out I have a lot of courage at 5 am haha. Love + hugs to you 4 eva!!
About your friend and the algorithm...I know we'd like to think that good people were misled (and I know it's not black and white...some were) but I noticed recently that all my friends pop to the top of my feed. Because the algorithm notes what I "like." It is an extension of my choice. Of what I'm drawn to. People go down the hate rabbit hole because they're drawn to it. Maybe that darkness wasn't obvious on the surface, but it was there all along. The stupid "outage" comment. My god. Not just her stupidity, but the diminishment of everything you said as attention mongering. Instead of just listening to see if maybe there was truth there. Respect for even conversing with her. I couldn't. ❤️ 4 eva!
It’s so sad because I think he’s one of those “single issue” people - and then that single issue triggers the algorithm and a person’s feed starts to look different. But give me a fucking break. You still know right from wrong. We met for coffee. I said I wasn’t going to, but it’s a 20 year friendship so I did. I figured if it was going to end, at least an in-person conversation was right. Also, I did not realize he had gone full T rump. If I’d known that I would not have gone. But we sat there for an hour and you know me. I was calm but I have facts at my fingertips. I remember numbers and figures if I’ve written them. Every time I’d push back hard with pesky facts he’d just sidle away and change the subject. Then he tried yoga teacher spiritual bypassing and I was like, really? lol. With me? I said everything there was to say. I told him I thought he’d compromised his ethics and morals and clear-seeing because he is blinded by his feelings about this one issue and that’s all he cares about. And it breaks my fucking heart but I’m out. Here if he decides to get honest about shit, but otherwise I can’t do it. It’s such a shame but also, fuck him.
Also, prison and asylum movies, and attacks of everything - bees, aliens, the blob, the slime, JAWS…how are any of us okay?! I also have to be mindful about what I watch, read, etc, because it absolutely has an effect. Okay, off to have some coffee. Adore you!!
Fellow Gen Xer who could have written this, just not so well. Thank you for writing it.
Thank you so much, Stephanie. We grew up with some interesting parenting notions to say the least! Thanks so much for being here xo
I also went to some thoroughly inappropriate movies when I was a kiddo, including "Manhattan" at age eleven. My mom always joked I was born 40 years old. 'Nuf said.
FUCK Vance and the "boys will be boys" horseshit. Boys will be savages and we're just supposed to nod and smile. NOPE. Gen X women ain't playing. Great post as always ❤️
Yes, I used to get that all the time. “You’re an old soul,” or my mother’s favorite, “you were born with a little melancholia about you” 🤣🤣🤣 No the fuck I was not. You can make someone an old soul pretty quick by handing them too much responsibility (and taking them to Manhattan too soon lol)…and the melancholia *might* have had something do to with her alcoholism 😬 o
Oh, whatever. Vance can kiss my ass, Eileen. He’s such a smug, awful little weasel. Love + hugs xo
This is so powerful, so true. I’ve read much of what you’ve written, Ally, and this has impacted me as much as anything… do you mind if I share it with friends on other platforms?
I don’t mind at all, and thank you, friend ❤️🩹
Rose Garden was a powerful film and book…haven’t thought about it in years. Appreciate this piece of writing, Ally.
Yes! Of course when I looked it up I remembered it was based on a book (I never read the book, but I think my stepmom may have had it), but Kathleen Quinlan, oof. I was thinking about rewatching the film now. Haven’t seen it since I was six! Thank you, Liz, and thank you for being here❤️
Thank you Ally, for expressing yourself. Sometimes you need to show your anger and rage.
And you’re spot on. I’m also a Gen X born in 1972, exposed to the most inappropriate films as a child. Some things will never leave me.
Much love xxx
It’s wild, isn’t it? All the things that didn’t go over our heads! And yes, rage is good fuel, thankfully, though it took me a very long time to figure that out and harness it. Better late than never as they say. Thank you for being here, Bonita❤️
Thank you, Ally. So beautifully expressed. Voices like yours are needed.
Thank you so much, Yvonne, and thank you for being here❤️
Said so beautifully!!!! Hell yes to every word. Thank you for putting words to all of this. Gives me hope each time I read something of yours.
Thank you so much, Mojgan. That means the world to me🙏🏼 Thank you for being here❤️
I love the fire and truth-telling that comes out of you in the wee hours of the morning. It crackles. Also, there's some Michelin Star level mastery cooked into this piece! Somehow you took me from totally relatable inappropriate GenX movie viewing (Rosemary's Baby for an eight year old, REALLY DAD??) to that horrible text thread to the infuriating way we keep letting boys off the hook for all the horrors they inflict. Brava, Ally!!!
Rosemary’s Baby at eight — I am dead Kendall. I mean, this is what I’m saying, there are too many of us for it not to have been “a thing” and I don’t know how we are remotely okay. And yet here we all are with our gallows humor and insane memories.
And thank you for my Michelin Star review🤩🙏🏼🤣 I really appreciate it. I did a lot of surgery on this one and lost some sleep and had to rework the sauce a few times, (and might have thrown a pot or two across the kitchen at some point) so it means a lot 🥹❤️
beautifully written despite covering such uglyness, powerful and true.
Thank you so much, Helia. I sweat it out with this one, so I appreciate your kind words that much more. Ugliness abounds, but for some reason, I still have a lot of hope and resolve. I suppose I refuse to believe there are that many people who want a world that looks like those text messages. Sending you tons of love ❤️
First off: Jaws. That’s it. That’s the first off. I still haven’t recovered.
Second: I think we tripped some evil tuber delay switch in the matrix when we ostracized Dan Quayle for spelling potato wrong. The spawn, all these years later, is Vance and he’s rotten to the core.
This is right on and stunningly written, as always. You’re so fucking good at this, Ally.
I mean, Jaws. I didn’t sit down on a toilet for 6 months after I saw it because I was afraid a baby shark might come up the pipes and bite my ass off.
And truly, bring back the likes of Dan Quayle and/or George W. What I would not give to be laughing about that kind of bullshit. Not that I agreed with them on anything, but I wasn’t constantly worried about…everything.
And thank you. I was seriously up until 5 AM because I couldn’t get this to do what I wanted it to do until then, and even then I wasn’t totally sure it was doing what I wanted it to do, but I also had no brain cells left at that point. So thank you for this.
And Vance can fuck all the way off. He’s so disgusting if you wrote him as a character you’d get a note that it was too over the top and not believable that a person could be so vile. AND YET.
Ally I don’t have the app so I’m sharing this here. Feel free to delete if that’s not okay. I just felt you’d be interested.
https://www.wonkette.com/p/megyn-kelly-is-sad-the-left-forced?r=2fzibi&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false
Great post. I'm home sick the past few days and have been looking at what's on TV and available for streaming and so much of it is horrible. It can't be good for any of us. (That's not even counting the news). Violent, scary, competitive in a mean way- yuck. We can't pump all the crap on the internet, on social media, on TV into brains of any ages and think people will be happy and well adjusted. I'm older, though, so maybe I don't get it.
No, I don’t think it’s good at any age! It’s all “food” one way or the other. We’re feeding our minds, and who wants a steady diet of horror and violence? I’m sorry you haven’t been feeling well, and I hope you’re feeling better soon, Pat. Thank you for being here ❤️🩹
I believe I read the book as a child. Did she think she lived in a mythical land called Yr? I seem to remember that.
Also, my parents and grandparents played that song a lot.
You know I never read the book, I saw the film that one time when I was six and stored it there in my cerebral cortex until I heard the song lol. But that sounds right, yes! She had a mythical land she created that seemed to help with her schizophrenia and that was part of what scared me as a kid I think. The land was a safe place at first and then it wasn’t anymore. I think I will rewatch the movie and maybe order the book, too! But not Brainwaves! Don’t need to see that again 😳
The title alone was a treasure. Thank you for reminding everyone of the fuckery. I've gotten to the point where I hate talking about it, so I'm awfully glad you do. I watched movies when I was a kid that I can't stomach now. My mother loved prison and asylum movies. Our father used to take us to see the Dr. Phibes movies at the drive in. I had a phobia of bees for decades. Our input affects us. I'm much more mindful of that now, because I am still impressionable. Love + hugs, ma'am.
It’s funny because I was going to write about memory this week and take a break from all the fuckery, but then the Telegram chat happened and I couldn’t do it. Especially with Vance doubling, tripling and quadrupling down, and that woman with her “outage” comment 🤣🫣 I had a whole part about short term memory and George Miller and “The Magical Number Seven Plus or Minus Two” - and also mirror neurons, but anyway. That part is now sitting in drafts in case I can use it for something else. I spent the better part of the last 3 days figuring it how to bring the Hunting Wives, the rose garden and the Telegram chat together. Finally satisfied at about 5 am this morning which is when I thought of the title. Turns out I have a lot of courage at 5 am haha. Love + hugs to you 4 eva!!
About your friend and the algorithm...I know we'd like to think that good people were misled (and I know it's not black and white...some were) but I noticed recently that all my friends pop to the top of my feed. Because the algorithm notes what I "like." It is an extension of my choice. Of what I'm drawn to. People go down the hate rabbit hole because they're drawn to it. Maybe that darkness wasn't obvious on the surface, but it was there all along. The stupid "outage" comment. My god. Not just her stupidity, but the diminishment of everything you said as attention mongering. Instead of just listening to see if maybe there was truth there. Respect for even conversing with her. I couldn't. ❤️ 4 eva!
It’s so sad because I think he’s one of those “single issue” people - and then that single issue triggers the algorithm and a person’s feed starts to look different. But give me a fucking break. You still know right from wrong. We met for coffee. I said I wasn’t going to, but it’s a 20 year friendship so I did. I figured if it was going to end, at least an in-person conversation was right. Also, I did not realize he had gone full T rump. If I’d known that I would not have gone. But we sat there for an hour and you know me. I was calm but I have facts at my fingertips. I remember numbers and figures if I’ve written them. Every time I’d push back hard with pesky facts he’d just sidle away and change the subject. Then he tried yoga teacher spiritual bypassing and I was like, really? lol. With me? I said everything there was to say. I told him I thought he’d compromised his ethics and morals and clear-seeing because he is blinded by his feelings about this one issue and that’s all he cares about. And it breaks my fucking heart but I’m out. Here if he decides to get honest about shit, but otherwise I can’t do it. It’s such a shame but also, fuck him.
What's the single issue in his case?
Also, prison and asylum movies, and attacks of everything - bees, aliens, the blob, the slime, JAWS…how are any of us okay?! I also have to be mindful about what I watch, read, etc, because it absolutely has an effect. Okay, off to have some coffee. Adore you!!
Yes, right?! I do see the need to process fear in a “safe” way, but wow—the goal isn’t to insert new ones. (Or is it? Whose goal?) I adore you, too.
Yes, like, process fear but maybe not at six, thanks!