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Nan Tepper's avatar

I love this and you, Ally. I relate to so many things in this essay. I was a kid who was afraid to speak in class, especially my high school English class. In my head, everyone was smarter than I and I would sit and listen to my peers opine. Sometimes I was impressed and sometimes meh. But getting the courage to add to the conversation wasn’t there. I could not cobble together the guts to play. Failing in front of others was something I didn’t want to experience. I wonder where I got the idea that I would fail at all. Such mean self talk. I’ve done so much work to heal that stuff. I don’t feel that way anymore. Being on Substack has been so good for me confidence-wise. I love growth at any age. I feel like I’m doing my best learning right now. Thanks for being one of my teachers! xoxo

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Iris's avatar

This: "They don’t give awards to daughters who are easy and helpful and get straight A’s and never complain and just repress it all until they have eating disorders and migraines."

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