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Dina Alvarez's avatar

I totally enjoyed reading this as I heavily related to many parts of it. I grew up in NYC in the 70s and 80s also, lower West side and was quite the latch key kid. I learned (finally) that it’s an illusion to think that I could fix anyone else - but man if it didn’t take so long for me to finally figure that out. I admit that sometimes I still try. So glad that you let your voice out that day.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Ally! This is an absolutely beautiful essay. SO relatable for me. I grew up with narcissistic parents, and I appointed myself caretaker. I was a little kid, and the behavior dragged into late adulthood. Who did it help? No one, including me. It's never too late to learn that lesson. Thank you for saving that little mouse. You were blessed with a big heart. It's good to know you're doing right by yourself.

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