Thank you so much. I’m tired of it. I want better for my daughter and all our daughters, but they won’t get better with people like this running the show, they’ll have to fight harder. Breaks my heart and pisses me off in equal parts. Thanks for being here ❤️🩹
I couldn't even finish reading this post I got so mad for you. 21 months? And your friend is no friend at all if HE's MANBLAMING you for their unprofessionalism. JFC. “It’s not a gender thing,” he assured me, “it’s a person thing. Obviously what you’re doing isn’t working.” YOU??? YOU??? Sorry, not sorry, this shit makes me crazy. But how do you really feel about it, Nan? Gah, poor man baby web developer. Why is it so hard for people to own their stuff? To say, I'm sorry, you're right Ally, we screwed up. Now I'm going to go back and read the rest of your post. Sorry this is happening. I'd sue the fucker and I'm the least litigious person I know. Double GAH! xo
Haaa. Thank you for the solidarity, Nan, I appreciate it! The 21-month —> 3-year project did get done, but it was one of the most frustrating experiences of my life. I don’t think that’s overstating the case. This recent thing *will* get done, in this case they are weeks and not years behind, and there is better, though not fabulous, communication. No monsoons lol.
I wish I could “Freaky Friday” my friend and let him live as a woman for a week. I feel certain that would cure it. It’s allllllll the rest of the stuff that’s got me feeling every kind of way. I just cannot believe there is even a whiff of conversation about pardoning a person like her, and of course the only person who would consider it is someone like him. It all makes me sick. And how is it that she is the only one behind bars where she belongs? Anyway. Gahhhh indeed. Hugs!
Yuuuup. I had house problems. Flooding, raw sewage, the works. I would explain my problems to contractors and other assorted men. It would follow this pattern; what you’re describing couldn’t have happened. I’ll look into it because that didn’t happen. So I looked into it and this is what happened (what I told them in the first place). They would carefully explain to me what I needed to do. And I would say “yes, that’s why I called you here. Can you fix it?” Then they would be surprised.
I mean, I’m sitting here laughing because I have so been there. It’s not funny, but also it is laughable. Like hi, I’m a full human being with a whole brain inside my head and I might know what’s going on! Shocker!
I took my son with me to the car dealership when I decided to buy out the rest of my car lease a year ago. He was 17 at the time. The guy was trying to talk to HIM. My kid. My son looked at him and said, Dude, I am not the one with the money. You need to talk to her, it’s her lease, her money, her decision, show her some respect. 🤷🏻♀️
it's just....incredible that men continue to think of themselves as competent and in charge. Even if I had played them back a video of our interactions, I don't think they would believe it.
I imagine what life would be like if men weren’t the biggest threat to our existence and fucking happiness, now more than I ever have in my whole life. For all the reasons you wrote about here and then some. It’s just so ludicrous that we’ve been considered weaker and dumber all this time.
You write so eloquently about it Ally. I can’t get the words out past the fucking rage coursing through my body. I’m so appreciative that you can. It means a lot. To so many of us. ❤️
Thank you for saying that. I struggled with this one a lot because of all the rage. I think the Epstein stuff put me *over the edge* this week. I have felt expendable so many times in my life, certainly as I was growing up. I genuinely felt that any man could have done just about anything at any time and there really wouldn’t have been any recourse for me. That is terrible fucking feeling that we all know far too well. And I am over it. And I do not want this for my daughter or anyone else’s daughter or for any of us. I am so tired of it. It’s so fucked up and wrong. I was trying to do that feeling justice and honestly the only way to really do it justice is to have the screen burst into flames. Which I don’t really want, of course. Anyway. Hugs and love to us all. We’re still here and that is something ❤️🔥
Stay angry and keep writing. I wish we could see a sea change of power in my life, but the painful reality is that it will probably take generations for my demographic (older white guys) to die off before we see justice and mercy roll down like thunder. If it helps, there are some older white guys like me whose hearts break over the tragedy of millennia of abusive patriarchy.
FWIW I think we are in the death throes of the patriarchy as we have known it. Unfortunately those death throes may take a while. But what you and I and many others are doing matters. A hopeful vignette: my two grandsons (ages 12 and 14) are splitting time between their mom (my daughter) who is an amazing woman and, like you, is raising them to be amazing human beings, in spite of the fact that their dad is doing his best to raise them according to his twisted philosophy of life. But they are becoming like my daughter in their values, and I could give examples but this note is already too long.
Anyway, the tide IS changing, even if we are currently in an ebb of ethics. I hope this is encouraging. Peace and joy and power to you.
These are such incredible comments, Robert, thank you so much. It does help, and I do know what you mean. I think you are right that a lot of these things are so deeply ingrained it will take generations to really root out, but your grandkids and my own kids and so many of their friends give me hope. And then there are people like you who also give me a lot of hope. Thank you for reading and for commenting and for being here. Your daughter and your grandkids are really lucky to have you.
Christ on a cracker, what an infuriating bunch of crap. I often counter comments like your friend’s well meaning but gender blind one with “it’s hard to explain the race to those who have only ridden in the first place car”. As that winning car is their goddamn birthright, they are often oblivious that there’s a race at all.
Don’t get started me on how they asked you for more money because of monsoons and weddings…are you effing serious? That is some balls.
I feel your frustration, Ally. Deep breathing and perhaps a trip to your local axe throwing joint?
So funny, was just discussing with my kids whether axe throwing or a rage room would be more cathartic right now lol. I think I might really enjoy a rage room. Put on a pair of goggles and gloves and whatever else they give you, and break shit with a machete. I was such a “good girl” for such a long fucking time. I think a rage room would do me good. I’ll keep you posted.
Eileen gave me a precious tool when she suggested looking the feeble male pretenders in the eye and saying: "That doesn't work for me." Well, she may not have suggested the in-the-eye-looking stuff, but I'm definitely going to try it out.
Yes, that, and letting it be silent is another one. Saying what you need to say and then stopping and not filling in the space. It’s a power move, especially if you’re asking for something or negotiating. It’s hard to do for me, but I’ve gotten better.
Absolutely. I’ve learned to appreciate it when I’m uncomfortable because I know I can tolerate discomfort without dying, and I know I’m growing. It’s also getting easier all the time because I’m sick of this shit. Out of fucks, etc.
I have never read something so well written about being a woman in today’s society along with every other topic discussed. Cheers to being on f’ing point!!! The author spoke the truth in a way that no one can deny. I can only pray to the liturgical gods that the people who were discussed in her article get a stern wake up call and somehow are forced to read her article over and over again. Not that it would open their eyes that have been sewn shut to any form of honesty.
Thank you so much, Sadie. Growing up, and for a very long time, I didn’t even see it. Why would I, I guess, it’s the water we’re all swimming in. But once you realize you aren’t safe in the world and you aren’t being treated with respect and the system isn’t set up to protect you, you can’t unsee it. It’s everywhere. Once I had a daughter I felt even more enraged. Now I can’t help but point at it because it’s infuriating and so deeply wrong. I think part of who I’m raging for in addition to my daughter and all our daughters and all of us, is my younger self because I got thrown to the wolves in so many ways. It teaches you to “know your place” and scan your environment and learn how to play the game to keep yourself safe, but what an unbelievable amount of energy, just to exist. Anyway, I’m so glad you’re here and I appreciate your comments very much ❤️🔥❤️🔥
I read this in bed this morning. Like always, so much here, woven together so brilliantly. A tapestry of where we're at. I also read a conversation (amongst men) about women as historical property, being "taken" and assimilated into new groups. As if that's the natural order of things. Jesus. I know it's a lot of things, but I can't help but think that a big part of why we're not taken seriously is that men are afraid of other men. Of their potential for violence. They sit sure in the knowledge that we are unlikely to retaliate physically, which colors a world of response. It's fucking bullshit. What I keep coming to, again and again, is that we kind of suck as a species and equality is a very long way off. Maybe impossible. What do we do with that? I am currently pulled back. The blood pressure/early grave thing. I cannot keep immersing myself in outrage, even though so much is painfully outrageous. But I'm glad you're here, pointing out hard truths. x
I get it, because there are days when I can’t do it either and have to step away. We are not meant for this much outrage or despair, you have to protect yourself. But yes, I feel very sadly that this is such a deeply ingrained idea - that thing where you’re not safe in the world because you can be physically overtaken. It makes me want to go train with some serious martial arts expert, or turn into Linda Hamilton in the Terminator movies. I think at the very least we women and girls should have evolved by now into creatures who can breathe fire when threatened. That seems only fair, and if I made the rules that’s how it would work.
Linda Hamilton in the T movies was a hero for the ages. I wish we taught self defense to all girls. But that in itself would mean an upending of a society that STILL tells us to keep the peace and “be nice.” There is always a small group of young women being taught to value themselves and to say NO. With force if necessary. If it were more of us, we’d be that much closer to equality…
The dudes I went to high school with, the dudes I taught whose parents made a few million a year, the tech bros all up in the comments of every fucking AI post. <3
The AI stuff is where I start to despair for real because “he” and his team will just post crap and “they” will largely believe it. Did you see this week they were posting pics of Obama eating with Anthony Bourdain on “Parts Unknown” and saying Bourdain was Epstein? No AI needed, just ignorance. Anyway, rough week for me on the hope front but I’ll bounce back, I always do. You help ❤️🩹
You and I are on the same page. I've been so angry, in despair, really, over the many things that white men in power who can't see the horizon due to the dollar signs in their eyes are doing to our country and in the world at large. Your personal story is a good reminder that we don't need influence at a national level, we need it in our day to day lives. And when we feel like our hands are tied, we need confidence that the systems in place will protect us. But as we have seen, those systems are being dismantled and there is little left to protect the less powerful. Its disgusting. Thank you for your clarity, sharing your world view so eloquently. I'm going to write that judge a letter. And if you want me to write or call any of these other flunkies, send me a dm with the info. ;)
Thanks so much Holly. I am taking this Epstein/Maxwell stuff particularly hard, and this Gipson thing (but also all of it) because I know what it’s like to have men think they can do whatever tf they like to young girls and nothing will happen to them - and sadly in my experience they are correct. And I know what it’s like to be assaulted and to work up the courage to come forward and have it not matter. Thank you for writing to the judge. I know he’s probably the kind of man who won’t care, but I hope he’s flooded with letters so much that at least he realizes these decisions get out. People will know. And maybe his life will not be so comfortable when he treats young girls like their lives don’t have value. I’ll fight these fuckers one at a time if that’s what we need to do and I so appreciate that you feel the same way.
All of this feels so familiar... as the homemaker spouse of a civil rights attorney, I've dealt with plenty of good-old-boy contractors who felt justified in pushing nice and accommodating me to the back of the line. But behold my wife - a certified bitch who always demands to speak to the manager ( a source of embarrassment in more innocent times) and wins every ugly argument by sheer force of will and righteous anger (plus: legal expertise). It's sad that nice people need defenders (the world should cherish nice people?) but, given how fucked up we are as a nation, I'm grateful for my Abby.
Thank you, Esther. I think I wrote partly to save myself this week. I am so enraged I can feel it burning through me. I appreciate your kind comments and I’m so glad you’re here ❤️🔥
Righteous anger…it is a powerful fuel and you made excellent use of its potency. We may not be able to enact change…but registering the need for it, well that is necessary and important 💪
File a claim in court; he’s in breach. I really don’t see this as a gender issue. I too have come up against cheating in many areas of commerce. But that’s just me… not a judgment about you or your need to vent about a wrongdoing.
Oh it’s long over, Sara. The job was finally completed. And if it was an isolated incident I wouldn’t view it through the gender lens, but it is not. It’s a constant dance and it’s exhausting. Not just in the professional arena, but everywhere. Ghislaine Maxwell got moved to a minimum security prison camp in Texas today. Lower security than the place where she was in Florida. The water we swim in is poisoned, we’re just used to it.
What a beautiful, disturbing, and accurate description of navigating our society as a woman.
Thank you so much. I’m tired of it. I want better for my daughter and all our daughters, but they won’t get better with people like this running the show, they’ll have to fight harder. Breaks my heart and pisses me off in equal parts. Thanks for being here ❤️🩹
I couldn't even finish reading this post I got so mad for you. 21 months? And your friend is no friend at all if HE's MANBLAMING you for their unprofessionalism. JFC. “It’s not a gender thing,” he assured me, “it’s a person thing. Obviously what you’re doing isn’t working.” YOU??? YOU??? Sorry, not sorry, this shit makes me crazy. But how do you really feel about it, Nan? Gah, poor man baby web developer. Why is it so hard for people to own their stuff? To say, I'm sorry, you're right Ally, we screwed up. Now I'm going to go back and read the rest of your post. Sorry this is happening. I'd sue the fucker and I'm the least litigious person I know. Double GAH! xo
Haaa. Thank you for the solidarity, Nan, I appreciate it! The 21-month —> 3-year project did get done, but it was one of the most frustrating experiences of my life. I don’t think that’s overstating the case. This recent thing *will* get done, in this case they are weeks and not years behind, and there is better, though not fabulous, communication. No monsoons lol.
I wish I could “Freaky Friday” my friend and let him live as a woman for a week. I feel certain that would cure it. It’s allllllll the rest of the stuff that’s got me feeling every kind of way. I just cannot believe there is even a whiff of conversation about pardoning a person like her, and of course the only person who would consider it is someone like him. It all makes me sick. And how is it that she is the only one behind bars where she belongs? Anyway. Gahhhh indeed. Hugs!
HUGS back! Men. They have so much to learn. But can they be taught? I have my doubts. xo
Yuuuup. I had house problems. Flooding, raw sewage, the works. I would explain my problems to contractors and other assorted men. It would follow this pattern; what you’re describing couldn’t have happened. I’ll look into it because that didn’t happen. So I looked into it and this is what happened (what I told them in the first place). They would carefully explain to me what I needed to do. And I would say “yes, that’s why I called you here. Can you fix it?” Then they would be surprised.
I mean, I’m sitting here laughing because I have so been there. It’s not funny, but also it is laughable. Like hi, I’m a full human being with a whole brain inside my head and I might know what’s going on! Shocker!
I took my son with me to the car dealership when I decided to buy out the rest of my car lease a year ago. He was 17 at the time. The guy was trying to talk to HIM. My kid. My son looked at him and said, Dude, I am not the one with the money. You need to talk to her, it’s her lease, her money, her decision, show her some respect. 🤷🏻♀️
*sound of my brain exploding*
it's just....incredible that men continue to think of themselves as competent and in charge. Even if I had played them back a video of our interactions, I don't think they would believe it.
They’d be like, “Actually…”
First off, ima need that tech bros number…
I imagine what life would be like if men weren’t the biggest threat to our existence and fucking happiness, now more than I ever have in my whole life. For all the reasons you wrote about here and then some. It’s just so ludicrous that we’ve been considered weaker and dumber all this time.
You write so eloquently about it Ally. I can’t get the words out past the fucking rage coursing through my body. I’m so appreciative that you can. It means a lot. To so many of us. ❤️
Thank you for saying that. I struggled with this one a lot because of all the rage. I think the Epstein stuff put me *over the edge* this week. I have felt expendable so many times in my life, certainly as I was growing up. I genuinely felt that any man could have done just about anything at any time and there really wouldn’t have been any recourse for me. That is terrible fucking feeling that we all know far too well. And I am over it. And I do not want this for my daughter or anyone else’s daughter or for any of us. I am so tired of it. It’s so fucked up and wrong. I was trying to do that feeling justice and honestly the only way to really do it justice is to have the screen burst into flames. Which I don’t really want, of course. Anyway. Hugs and love to us all. We’re still here and that is something ❤️🔥
Stay angry and keep writing. I wish we could see a sea change of power in my life, but the painful reality is that it will probably take generations for my demographic (older white guys) to die off before we see justice and mercy roll down like thunder. If it helps, there are some older white guys like me whose hearts break over the tragedy of millennia of abusive patriarchy.
FWIW I think we are in the death throes of the patriarchy as we have known it. Unfortunately those death throes may take a while. But what you and I and many others are doing matters. A hopeful vignette: my two grandsons (ages 12 and 14) are splitting time between their mom (my daughter) who is an amazing woman and, like you, is raising them to be amazing human beings, in spite of the fact that their dad is doing his best to raise them according to his twisted philosophy of life. But they are becoming like my daughter in their values, and I could give examples but this note is already too long.
Anyway, the tide IS changing, even if we are currently in an ebb of ethics. I hope this is encouraging. Peace and joy and power to you.
These are such incredible comments, Robert, thank you so much. It does help, and I do know what you mean. I think you are right that a lot of these things are so deeply ingrained it will take generations to really root out, but your grandkids and my own kids and so many of their friends give me hope. And then there are people like you who also give me a lot of hope. Thank you for reading and for commenting and for being here. Your daughter and your grandkids are really lucky to have you.
Thank you for replying and encouraging me. I’m the lucky one.
Christ on a cracker, what an infuriating bunch of crap. I often counter comments like your friend’s well meaning but gender blind one with “it’s hard to explain the race to those who have only ridden in the first place car”. As that winning car is their goddamn birthright, they are often oblivious that there’s a race at all.
Don’t get started me on how they asked you for more money because of monsoons and weddings…are you effing serious? That is some balls.
I feel your frustration, Ally. Deep breathing and perhaps a trip to your local axe throwing joint?
So funny, was just discussing with my kids whether axe throwing or a rage room would be more cathartic right now lol. I think I might really enjoy a rage room. Put on a pair of goggles and gloves and whatever else they give you, and break shit with a machete. I was such a “good girl” for such a long fucking time. I think a rage room would do me good. I’ll keep you posted.
Eileen gave me a precious tool when she suggested looking the feeble male pretenders in the eye and saying: "That doesn't work for me." Well, she may not have suggested the in-the-eye-looking stuff, but I'm definitely going to try it out.
Yes, that, and letting it be silent is another one. Saying what you need to say and then stopping and not filling in the space. It’s a power move, especially if you’re asking for something or negotiating. It’s hard to do for me, but I’ve gotten better.
It's hard for all of us, but we have to learn to defeat them at their own game?
Absolutely. I’ve learned to appreciate it when I’m uncomfortable because I know I can tolerate discomfort without dying, and I know I’m growing. It’s also getting easier all the time because I’m sick of this shit. Out of fucks, etc.
I have never read something so well written about being a woman in today’s society along with every other topic discussed. Cheers to being on f’ing point!!! The author spoke the truth in a way that no one can deny. I can only pray to the liturgical gods that the people who were discussed in her article get a stern wake up call and somehow are forced to read her article over and over again. Not that it would open their eyes that have been sewn shut to any form of honesty.
Thank you so much, Sadie. Growing up, and for a very long time, I didn’t even see it. Why would I, I guess, it’s the water we’re all swimming in. But once you realize you aren’t safe in the world and you aren’t being treated with respect and the system isn’t set up to protect you, you can’t unsee it. It’s everywhere. Once I had a daughter I felt even more enraged. Now I can’t help but point at it because it’s infuriating and so deeply wrong. I think part of who I’m raging for in addition to my daughter and all our daughters and all of us, is my younger self because I got thrown to the wolves in so many ways. It teaches you to “know your place” and scan your environment and learn how to play the game to keep yourself safe, but what an unbelievable amount of energy, just to exist. Anyway, I’m so glad you’re here and I appreciate your comments very much ❤️🔥❤️🔥
it's everywhere
I read this in bed this morning. Like always, so much here, woven together so brilliantly. A tapestry of where we're at. I also read a conversation (amongst men) about women as historical property, being "taken" and assimilated into new groups. As if that's the natural order of things. Jesus. I know it's a lot of things, but I can't help but think that a big part of why we're not taken seriously is that men are afraid of other men. Of their potential for violence. They sit sure in the knowledge that we are unlikely to retaliate physically, which colors a world of response. It's fucking bullshit. What I keep coming to, again and again, is that we kind of suck as a species and equality is a very long way off. Maybe impossible. What do we do with that? I am currently pulled back. The blood pressure/early grave thing. I cannot keep immersing myself in outrage, even though so much is painfully outrageous. But I'm glad you're here, pointing out hard truths. x
I get it, because there are days when I can’t do it either and have to step away. We are not meant for this much outrage or despair, you have to protect yourself. But yes, I feel very sadly that this is such a deeply ingrained idea - that thing where you’re not safe in the world because you can be physically overtaken. It makes me want to go train with some serious martial arts expert, or turn into Linda Hamilton in the Terminator movies. I think at the very least we women and girls should have evolved by now into creatures who can breathe fire when threatened. That seems only fair, and if I made the rules that’s how it would work.
Linda Hamilton in the T movies was a hero for the ages. I wish we taught self defense to all girls. But that in itself would mean an upending of a society that STILL tells us to keep the peace and “be nice.” There is always a small group of young women being taught to value themselves and to say NO. With force if necessary. If it were more of us, we’d be that much closer to equality…
Could not agree more. I see the way it’s helping my daughter and that makes me feel good at least. She takes no shit.
Having a strong mom helps. ❤️
🥹❤️
Your words here are supremely vicarious. I am so, so tired of planet penis.
It’s rough around here, Cabot. No doubt. Hugs to you, my friend. I never need to do man math with you!
The dudes I went to high school with, the dudes I taught whose parents made a few million a year, the tech bros all up in the comments of every fucking AI post. <3
The AI stuff is where I start to despair for real because “he” and his team will just post crap and “they” will largely believe it. Did you see this week they were posting pics of Obama eating with Anthony Bourdain on “Parts Unknown” and saying Bourdain was Epstein? No AI needed, just ignorance. Anyway, rough week for me on the hope front but I’ll bounce back, I always do. You help ❤️🩹
Jesus wept. Of course they would hate Bourdain as well.
Wish I could help more, friend. <3
You help more than you know :)
Ok but I am also posting a new poop essay on Sunday, if that helps you any <3
I mean, that always helps. I’ll look forward to it 🤣
You and I are on the same page. I've been so angry, in despair, really, over the many things that white men in power who can't see the horizon due to the dollar signs in their eyes are doing to our country and in the world at large. Your personal story is a good reminder that we don't need influence at a national level, we need it in our day to day lives. And when we feel like our hands are tied, we need confidence that the systems in place will protect us. But as we have seen, those systems are being dismantled and there is little left to protect the less powerful. Its disgusting. Thank you for your clarity, sharing your world view so eloquently. I'm going to write that judge a letter. And if you want me to write or call any of these other flunkies, send me a dm with the info. ;)
Thanks so much Holly. I am taking this Epstein/Maxwell stuff particularly hard, and this Gipson thing (but also all of it) because I know what it’s like to have men think they can do whatever tf they like to young girls and nothing will happen to them - and sadly in my experience they are correct. And I know what it’s like to be assaulted and to work up the courage to come forward and have it not matter. Thank you for writing to the judge. I know he’s probably the kind of man who won’t care, but I hope he’s flooded with letters so much that at least he realizes these decisions get out. People will know. And maybe his life will not be so comfortable when he treats young girls like their lives don’t have value. I’ll fight these fuckers one at a time if that’s what we need to do and I so appreciate that you feel the same way.
One at a time, what other choice do we have? I'm right beside you! 💜
BTW, letter written and posted. I appreciate having an outlet for this anger.
I think mine was the most scathing letter I’ve ever written anyone in my life. I did not hold back. I really appreciate that you did that, Holly.
Ally you covered so many things that I could comment on. It is all just so unbelievably sad.
It really is, Mary. Sad and exhausting. Gotta keep fighting the good fight, but right now I’m trying to refuel. Hugs to us all ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Truly a good man or just one who thinks he is? I'm wary (and weary) of the ones who race to self-defence notallmenisms.
The truly good men never feel the need to say “not all men” so there’s that.
The amount of times I explain that to them.
All of this feels so familiar... as the homemaker spouse of a civil rights attorney, I've dealt with plenty of good-old-boy contractors who felt justified in pushing nice and accommodating me to the back of the line. But behold my wife - a certified bitch who always demands to speak to the manager ( a source of embarrassment in more innocent times) and wins every ugly argument by sheer force of will and righteous anger (plus: legal expertise). It's sad that nice people need defenders (the world should cherish nice people?) but, given how fucked up we are as a nation, I'm grateful for my Abby.
She sounds fucking fantastic.
She is. She also went to the Supreme Fuckin Court to give us marriage equality. :-)
I love her by proxy. That is freaking awesome.
Wow. This packed a punch. A great expose of all that is wrong with the patriarchy. Thank you for speaking up so effectively 🙏
Thank you, Esther. I think I wrote partly to save myself this week. I am so enraged I can feel it burning through me. I appreciate your kind comments and I’m so glad you’re here ❤️🔥
Righteous anger…it is a powerful fuel and you made excellent use of its potency. We may not be able to enact change…but registering the need for it, well that is necessary and important 💪
File a claim in court; he’s in breach. I really don’t see this as a gender issue. I too have come up against cheating in many areas of commerce. But that’s just me… not a judgment about you or your need to vent about a wrongdoing.
Oh it’s long over, Sara. The job was finally completed. And if it was an isolated incident I wouldn’t view it through the gender lens, but it is not. It’s a constant dance and it’s exhausting. Not just in the professional arena, but everywhere. Ghislaine Maxwell got moved to a minimum security prison camp in Texas today. Lower security than the place where she was in Florida. The water we swim in is poisoned, we’re just used to it.