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Feb 8Liked by Ally Hamilton

i could not stop reading this it's so so good

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Thanks so much, I hope so too 🤍

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Feb 9Liked by Ally Hamilton

I needed this one tonight. Thank you, Ally. To doing whatever it takes.

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This is so beautiful that words fail me. I feel this down to a cellular level. I lost my beautiful and amazing mother when I was 25 and before I ever had children. I wish I had her every day of my life, some days more than others. Thank you for sharing this. 💔❤️

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I can't find the right words right now but there was a lot I felt, a lot I know (and wish I didn't) and a whole lot of heart in this piece that is stronger for the tears it's had to mend.

Thank you for writing this 🫶🏻

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Feb 9Liked by Ally Hamilton

Yes the mother you love who was never there for you. I had to let this sit with me for a bit … but I’ve always known it. My best friend had an actual relationship with my mom. I was always my mom’s helper caring for my 3 younger brothers. It takes quite a chunk out of you.

Thank you for writing and publishing

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Feb 8Liked by Ally Hamilton

Powerful and beautiful essay. Whew! This really resonated.

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Feb 8Liked by Ally Hamilton

"I know that when I tried to fix her in all the years that followed, it broke me more and made me feel I wasn’t enough, and worse - that I was stupid to think I might have been enough. I know that later, way later, I was drawn toward people who made me feel the same way. Stupid to think I might have been enough. Can you really fix a break if it began inside someone else? If I glue myself together, but the thing that caused the break is still in rageful pieces, will I ever be whole, healed, shiny, strong?" This was me and my mother after my father died. She never really healed. I think I may be.

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Feb 8Liked by Ally Hamilton

"Question: how are you paid to be the head of a department, how is that your job description when you blame a sixteen-year-old for the outrageous behavior of the grown men you hired?" Because the alternative is to act like a grown adult and take responsibility for your actions. So many men have been trained and conditioned to believe, deep in their souls, that the DESERVE what they have (and more!) and if you are standing in their way, then YOU are the problem. It's so much easier to just move through life assuming that women are the problem.

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How far back can you trace the break? What a question and what a compelling and beautiful essay.

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Feb 9Liked by Ally Hamilton

I feel connected to you in a profound way Sister. Thank you for speaking truth for those whose voice has been or is silenced.

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Thank you, you have made me understand a lot more than I ever realised, both about my Mother and my relationships. I hope I am a good mother now, I've been broken so many times but my children always come first.

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Gosh, this is so powerful and relatable

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I’ve been going back and back and back. Trying to figure out which break was THE break. This was mesmerizing and familiar at the same time. Beautiful writing for very painful subject(s).

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Feb 9Liked by Ally Hamilton

This is full of truths. It is only when we recognize the break that we start to heal. There are so many brilliant sentences in this. The difference between moving towards those who chip away at our broken edges versus moving towards those who recognize us! Yes. I’m not feeling able to string words together eloquently right now but thank you for sharing this.

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Feb 9Liked by Ally Hamilton

This was one of the most beautiful pieces I’ve read in a long time

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