It is disheartening. I try to remind myself if I grew up in the family this person did, if I grew up in the town they did, went to the same schools, received the same messages, had the same experiences...I'd be them. But sometimes I'm like, no I wouldn't lol. Because of course the hope is, whatever you grew up thinking, whatever you were…
It is disheartening. I try to remind myself if I grew up in the family this person did, if I grew up in the town they did, went to the same schools, received the same messages, had the same experiences...I'd be them. But sometimes I'm like, no I wouldn't lol. Because of course the hope is, whatever you grew up thinking, whatever you were told, at a certain point you'd start to question. Or you'd learn things that disrupted the narrative and gave you pause. Sometimes it's just willful ignorance, or a person has decided they have this one belief and will tolerate just about anything as long as someone shares this one belief. But yeah, women can be awful to one another, and to themselves and there's something very depressing about that.
I don't know how SHOUTY CAPS found me. I asked her, but that was not one of the questions she answered. Same with the woman who told me she'd been running a successful business for 9 years (I've been in business since 2009, but whatever) and I should trust her when she said sharing my opinions to my email list was something I was going to regret and she hoped all my clients unsubscribed. WhenI explained I'm a writer, and sharing opinions and feelings is the job, she stopped talking to me lol. I mean, even with my yoga people, being transparent about my feelings is not something I've ever shied away from, because if what you're doing on your mat isn't transforming whatever you're doing in your life, there's a foundational disconnect.
And I'm so glad someone got the Richard Pryor reference, hahaha. Love you, Eileen, and I look forward to reading your thoughts whenever you write them down! Onward we go xx
I'm glad you gave them some logical pushback, not to attempt to educate them, but to solidify your healthy position. I can hear Tom Petty singing "I Won't Back Down" in your honor :) xoxoxoxoxo
It is disheartening. I try to remind myself if I grew up in the family this person did, if I grew up in the town they did, went to the same schools, received the same messages, had the same experiences...I'd be them. But sometimes I'm like, no I wouldn't lol. Because of course the hope is, whatever you grew up thinking, whatever you were told, at a certain point you'd start to question. Or you'd learn things that disrupted the narrative and gave you pause. Sometimes it's just willful ignorance, or a person has decided they have this one belief and will tolerate just about anything as long as someone shares this one belief. But yeah, women can be awful to one another, and to themselves and there's something very depressing about that.
I don't know how SHOUTY CAPS found me. I asked her, but that was not one of the questions she answered. Same with the woman who told me she'd been running a successful business for 9 years (I've been in business since 2009, but whatever) and I should trust her when she said sharing my opinions to my email list was something I was going to regret and she hoped all my clients unsubscribed. WhenI explained I'm a writer, and sharing opinions and feelings is the job, she stopped talking to me lol. I mean, even with my yoga people, being transparent about my feelings is not something I've ever shied away from, because if what you're doing on your mat isn't transforming whatever you're doing in your life, there's a foundational disconnect.
And I'm so glad someone got the Richard Pryor reference, hahaha. Love you, Eileen, and I look forward to reading your thoughts whenever you write them down! Onward we go xx
I'm glad you gave them some logical pushback, not to attempt to educate them, but to solidify your healthy position. I can hear Tom Petty singing "I Won't Back Down" in your honor :) xoxoxoxoxo