Thank you so much, Eileen, I felt that right in my heart. And I do know what you mean about how things change when men have daughters. I remember hearing through the grapevine that my most horrific ex (and let it be known, that is *quite* a title) had a daughter - and I remember thinking, well, you're about to understand some things. But…
Thank you so much, Eileen, I felt that right in my heart. And I do know what you mean about how things change when men have daughters. I remember hearing through the grapevine that my most horrific ex (and let it be known, that is *quite* a title) had a daughter - and I remember thinking, well, you're about to understand some things. But I don't know how much it changed him because I never talked to him after I recovered from that relationship, and really could never be bothered to google the man.
I try to remember that we're all swimming in these waters, boys, too, and you can only know what you know. Just like we're getting messages about our worth and value in society, so are they. And I don't think it's serving them, either, even if there are obvious and notable benefits, like walking safely through the world and not having to be grateful just to exist. I still think the patriarchy is the root of toxic masculinity and editing out vulnerability and all kinds of other things that probably cause a lot of internalized rage, fear and insecurity. And sometimes the rage doesn't remain internal. I'm not excusing it, I just try to understand how we can be where we are. And I guess this is why I think it's so important to talk about it openly.
I can't tell you how much I appreciate your comments, your humor, you insight and your kindness. Sending you a lot of love <3
Thank you so much, Eileen, I felt that right in my heart. And I do know what you mean about how things change when men have daughters. I remember hearing through the grapevine that my most horrific ex (and let it be known, that is *quite* a title) had a daughter - and I remember thinking, well, you're about to understand some things. But I don't know how much it changed him because I never talked to him after I recovered from that relationship, and really could never be bothered to google the man.
I try to remember that we're all swimming in these waters, boys, too, and you can only know what you know. Just like we're getting messages about our worth and value in society, so are they. And I don't think it's serving them, either, even if there are obvious and notable benefits, like walking safely through the world and not having to be grateful just to exist. I still think the patriarchy is the root of toxic masculinity and editing out vulnerability and all kinds of other things that probably cause a lot of internalized rage, fear and insecurity. And sometimes the rage doesn't remain internal. I'm not excusing it, I just try to understand how we can be where we are. And I guess this is why I think it's so important to talk about it openly.
I can't tell you how much I appreciate your comments, your humor, you insight and your kindness. Sending you a lot of love <3